Meeting guys at clubs? Say what?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Have you ever seriously dated someone you met at a club?
    YES! Many times (successfully) : (5 votes)
    11 %
    Yes! Once or twice - it worked out just fine! : (15 votes)
    32 %
    No, but I know people who have and they seemed happy/stable : (24 votes)
    51 %
    I had a horrible experience dating someone I met clubbing! (explain below) : (3 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 2
    2395 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    OK, so not a club, but definitely a bar.  It’s where I met my husband!  Think about it this way – if YOU’RE at a club, and you think you’re a pretty good person, then why think you couldn’t meet someone who was like you, shared your values, etc. at a club?  I mean, would you want guys thinking “I’ll never meet a decent girl at a club” when one of those girls is you?

    Post # 3
    1503 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

    I’m not a clubbing kind of person at all, but my best friend met her now boyfriend of a couple years one night while they were both out at a bowling alley which is attached to a bar and boche ball room. It’s ironic since neither of them are really that into that scene either, but they both happened to accompany some friends that night and met. He’s an extremely sweet guy and although she’s been living in New York the last year and a half (we’re from California), they’re still making things work.

    So yes, I do think it’s entirely possible to meet someone more than decent at a club or bar 🙂 it might just take a little bit of digging.


    Post # 4
    851 posts
    Busy bee

    I didn’t vote because I”ve never “seriously” dated someone I met at a club, but I have had several relationships (which ended amicably or transitioned to friendships) with men I met at clubs or college parties. The way I see is that I’m a pretty cool person and I like to go clubbing, it only stands to reason that there also be some other pretty cool people who like to club. 

    Post # 5
    7940 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    I met my guy après ski at a lodge bar where a band was playing. so not quite a club but yeah it happened! We flirted all night (off and on to keep it cool lol) then went on our first hang the Friday after that, and 1st real dinner date the very next Saturday and I just knew he was it.

    Post # 6
    1302 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    i’ve never dated anyone from a club. they were all sketchy and i had no interest in giving anyone my number. whenever i went clubbing it was mostly to let loose with my friends and not give a shit. we never intended on hooking up or meeting any potential suitors there. 

    Post # 7
    2915 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    I met my husband at a bar in Vegas, and he is fabulous. 

    Post # 8
    2580 posts
    Sugar bee

    I met a guy when I was 19 ( 28 now) in a bar and he was the nicest guy. Didn’t work out because he was ready for marriage and kids and I was still young and wild. He got married to a woman right after me and they have two kids. Him and his wife were also vote cutest married couple in their city ( it was a contest)

    So yes it’s possible but I have also met some jerks haha

    Post # 9
    1236 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

    I’ve met guys in bars, dated guys I met in bars. Didn’t meet my DH that way, but it’s a perfectly valid place to meet someone. I also have met plenty of “jerks” through more “traditional” venues, and quite possibly the worst man I’ve ever known (abusive ex boyfriend of a friend, she has a restraining order, had to move because he kept breaking into her house and threatening her) my friend met in her church. There are good and bad people everywhere.

    If someone thinks “Oh man, all people who go to ______ are sketchy/gross/jerks/etc” then THEY go there, what does that say abotu their self-perception?


    Judge not etc.



    Post # 10
    1102 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Met many guys in many places (Starbucks, online-dating, work, school, beach)…but ended up meeting my husband at a bar!

    Post # 11
    227 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    yep,its where I met my DH, although I don’t think it counts as I was working there! I let him chase me for a long time,because drunk guys chatting the barmaids up happened all the time, and you kinda got used to ignoring it. So,he didn’t give up and even refused to drink at all one night to prove that he liked me for me,and not because he was drunk and horny haha!


    Been married 3 years next week, so Id say it worked out pretty well,although the club where we met has since shut down,which made us sad as we liked to revisit every now and again and reminisce.

    Post # 12
    4965 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    HippyBunniesinLove:  I once met a guy at a club that I dated for 2-3 months before we went our separate ways (nothing bad). We had run into some older men that my friend used to work with and they invited us in to their VIP area. I was talking to some guy, he tried to get in to the VIP area also, and I told a security guard and got him KICKED OUT! 

    The next morning I got a text from him – and had NO memory of him (I was in my early 20s….I was allowed to drink too much then, lol) . I luckily had my phone and I saw a picture of him – he looked decent so I texted back and we made plans to meet up for dinner. We went out 3-4 times but he was graduating college and moving back to his hometown so we kind of just ended things. 

    While I don’t think the club is the BEST place to meet a man, I do think that it is totally possible! 

    Post # 13
    119 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I have never personaly dated anyone from a club/bar. My parents on the other hand met at a bar over 35 years ago and have been happily married all this time. The funny thing is my aunt and uncle met at this same bar on a different night and have been married even longer than my parents! Sooooo I know it can happen, or I wouldn’t be here today!!

    Post # 14
    6 posts

    I bumped into my now-husband and his friend the week after I met him a a mural friends party (we didn’t talk much, only introduced ourselves, he seemed nice). On that night, my phone was stolen by a guy I met and of course was upset as I was the one who organised lifts for my friends and I, and now we couldn’t contact them. I bumped into my now-hubby again, told him what happened and then he offered us a lift! Thank god for that. We clicked and became fast friends, eventually starting dating then marriage later on 🙂

    It’s possible to meet someone but it can take some filtering with some of the guys at the clubs!

    Post # 15
    8513 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Well a, I never dated anyone I met at a club.  But I don’t go to many clubs.  I met lots of people at regular bars though!  I met so many people, and talked to many or maybe went on a couple dates.  I only ever really dated 2 people out of all the people I ever met at a bar.  The second one was my DH though!  The vast majority I met didn’t work out though!

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