(Closed) Meeting old friends this weekend and I'm nervous!

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
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  • Wedding: October 2012

@Miss Sorbet:  I have the exact same concerns whenever I see someone from my past. And I’ll be honest, my nerves come mostly from the weight I’ve gained. So a big, big part of the problems I have with the wedding is about seeing my grandparents, whom I haven’t seen in ten years and, oh, about 100 pounds. And friends I haven’t seen in as little as 15 months but still a good amount of weight (I have seriously ballooned up since April when I quit my job, it’s awful). So I definitely get the nervousness, I really do! I’m not friends with anyone from high school anymore, but you’re definitely braver than I as I would not reconnect with any of them in person for exactly my issues with my weight. It’s stupid and sad, but people are so judgmental and I always assume the worst, even if I myself wouldn’t think twice if someone showed up at twice the size I saw them last.

Unfortunately, I’m not the person to give advice — clearly! If I were to channel my mom, though, I’d say to take a deep breath and think about how much fun you’ll have. You’re worried about your husband feeling left out, but I don’t think that’s something to worry about. You and your friends will have old stories to tell, and your husband and you will have new stories to counter the old — about how much you’ve changed, about how you would have reacted in X situation if you were still like you were in high school, etc. Plus the girlfriend is another tie to current reality as opposed to the past. I think that it’s actually a really good mix for creating a new dynamic and building on the past, rather than living in it (which is what happens with a lot of people when they reconnect and have nothing in common but what used to be). You’re all in good places, it seems, so I think there’s a really, really good chance that you’ll all just see each other and nobody will really think twice about any of it. 

Good luck!

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