meeting potential DJ etiquette question?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
4956 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

happybunny177:  We met our officiant at a starbucks and paid for her drink (before hired). We finalized our plans with our photographer at a bar and he bought our drinks (said he’d expense them, lol – he was already hired). So I have no idea, lol. If you arrive first – maybe buy your own drinks and then sit down and wait? Or maybe he will have already done that.

Post # 3
268 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Sorry…I don’t think there’s a definitive right way to handle this. It’s really whoever feels like offering. I had met with a potential photographer at a bar (his suggestion) and he treated both of us to a drink (NYC where drinks are expensive). After that, I felt really bad that we didn’t end up using him haha. 

When I met the photographers I ended up booking at a Starbucks, none of us got anything. 


Post # 4
506 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Like rusticchic212, we met our photographer at a Starbucks. None of us got anything.

Post # 5
1644 posts
Bumble bee

happybunny177:  What would you do if you were meeting an request-fo-proposals respondent at your office?

A lot of brides end up thinking that there is some special “wedding etiquette” that applies to weddings only and not to everyday life. I suspect that is because weddings are the last domain wherein people commonly engage in social formality. Etiquette differs for formal functions, for informal functions, for casual occasions, and for business; but people tend to think of the way we behave in the latter three cases as just ordinary every-day good manners, and the former as being applicable for everything to do with weddings and only for weddings.

So, Business Etiquette: 

When meeting with a client (that’s you) at a neutral location, a service-provider (that’s the DJ) offers to provide refreshments to his clients. This is not only good manners, but effective business practice as it creates in his client a sense of relationship, and an sense of reciprocal obligation, which helps incline the client to accept his proposal. If the contract has already been signed or if you have already decided to agree to it, you can accept the offer. If you are planning on evaluating his proposal critically and may possibly reject it, you should thank him for the offer but insist on buying your own so as not to incur any indebtedness, no matter how trivial.

Using a coffeeshop’s customer-seating area to conduct business incurs an obligation under business etiquette to actually be a customer of the coffeeshop. If none of the persons meeting is purchasing any products from the coffeeshop, business etiquette demands that you meet somewhere else.


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Post # 6
1377 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

When we met with a potential photographer, we arrived a couple minutes early to a little cafe, so I got FI and I something to drink while we waited. The photog didn’t get anything and also arrived late. The second photog we met with (also at a cafe), we arrived early so we could get breakfast, and the photog (when he arrived) got a coffee refill for $0.65 and sat with us to go over the contract. I agree with PP that if you are meeting at a coffeeshop someone needs to get something, but I don’t think there’s an important obligation either way for who pays for what. 

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