Post # 1
Meeting the Priest – a Catholic Ceremony
Tomorrow we are meeting the priest for the first time. We don’t have a date and I was envision this meeting as sorting that stuff out but wondered if anyone had any advice or guidance as to what else could happen at this meeting?
It is a catholic church and I just wondering what to expect. I have heard stories and read horror posts about the first meeting being difficult; the priest trying to press views on the couple etc. More of like an “interview” on your personal beliefs, then a pleasant get to know you meeting. Both my FI and I are Catholic, but among other things that are frowned upon, we have lived together for a year and half already! I suppose I am a bit anxious but was hoping I could get some last minute insight from other bees that went through Catholic ceremonies on what their first meeting was like!!!
Post # 3
Ours was really simple. We talked to the priest, set our date and paid the deposit. He gave us all of the information we needed in regards to what we will need to do in preparation before the wedding and a book of all of the readings/ hyms that we can pick out for the ceremony. He was very nice.
I asked him if I could wear a strapless dress and he said that as long as it was tasteful and that I don’t make a point to “expose my charms” (haha) it was fine.
It was really easy. Don’t sweat it.
Post # 4
We set our date over the phone, since we’re getting married at “home” and live half the country away. When we went in to meet with the priest, we just talked about who was in the wedding, what we were doing for the ceremony – our options for readings and such – and were sent home with a book of things to figure out before we meet with him again.
Nothing hard. And we’re living together now, too, and he didn’t say anything about it, even though it was obvious. I think the priest we’re doing counseling with (again, half the country away) might want to talk about that more, but they definitely won’t shun you at your first meeting!
Post # 5
Like the others, our meeting with the priest was very stress free. We lived together as well and it never came up. He had some general questions for us, like why did we want a Catholic ceremony and why in this particular church since we weren’t parishioners, but those were reasonable given the circumstances.
I had some questions, like could we do some of our readings in Spanish, did I HAVE to wear a veil and like the other poster, whether strapless dress was ok. All of these were fine I didn’t need a veil which made me very happy.
Then we picked a date and talked about costs… that was it! Picking the church was the hardest thing and it made me very relieved to get that part of the wedding planning over with.
Post # 6
It really, really, really depends on your priest. Do you already know your priest? Have you met him before? Know his personality and style? I don’t like the parish priest that I grew up with, he’s kind of mean and insensitive towards brides, so I chose not to get married by him. My FH isn’t Catholic, but his cousins are, so we chose their parish priest, and I couldn’t be happier with our choice. He is kind, funny, never has anything bad to say, doesn’t press his views on us, etc. We also live together and it was something I was worried about before our first meeting too. We’re actually meeting our priest for the third and final time tomorrow! Good luck and go in with an open mind, you may be pleasantly surprised like I was!
Post # 7
For us we first met with the church “lady” to set the date and choose our priest. We have 3 at our parish so we got to choose. Our first meeting with our Celebrant was very laid back and easy going. He stressed to us that he wasn’t here to judge and that anything said was private. We then took the FOCUS test and the rest of our meetings are to discuss the results. When we go over he basically looks at the questions that get flagged, says something, and tells us to think on it and discuss is privately.
There’s a catholic board here on WB. Search through it, there’s lots of useful info on it for Catholic brides.
Post # 8
I think by looking at the style and formality of the church, you should have a good gauge of how strict and traditional the church is. It differs from church to church and priest to preist whether or not the Priests will pressure or have issue with living together. When we met with our priest, he had no information about us, so we just spent time talking about how we met, what we like about each other etc. We will have a final meeting to discuss wedding day specifics closer to the wedding – since he has done thousands and doesn’t need to be involved in the planning. Because of it being catholic, more than likely they will provide a wedding coordinator for the church and a sponsor couple to usher you through the church part of planning, classes and scheduling issues.
Post # 9
I already knew our priest, but he hadn’t met my fiance before so we just visited about how we met, some reasons why we work together, talked about our families, etc. It was a really relaxed meeting of just get-to-know-you type stuff. Nothing to stress about. We did talk about readings a little, but he mostly wasn’t concerned with such details for the first meeting.
We lived together when we were engaged too and I wasn’t sure how the priest would react. I think it’s more and more common these days, so our priest didn’t say anything negative.