Post # 1
We are meeting with a minister tomorrow. I don’t go to church regularly so I’m a little nervous. Fiancé and I also live together so that’s a big reason I’m nervous. We are probably not going to go out of way to bring it up. Do most ministers have a problem with this? What kind of other questions will he ask?
Post # 3
They will probably ask a lot about your christianity and beliefs. As far as I know, most pastors/ministers aren’t so cool with cohabitating
Post # 4
They do normally have a problem with it. But you may be lucky and not have to deal with it. I’m sure they will ask if you have taken a premarital course. Or are you doing that with him?? otherwise he will talk about communication, how do you deal w/finances together, how do you fight the right way. Other things. But He WILL be bringing up the living situation so don’t think it won’t come up. Will probably be an issue if you don’t go to church at all, but never know it might not.
Good Luck! I’ll pray for you!
Post # 5
I’m Jewish so my experience was a little different, but maybe it will help. Our rabbi actually said that it’s probably good that we lived together first, which I found very surprising.
We had two visits with him. The first one we talked about the ceremony and what we wanted to do for that. The second we talked about us as a couple. He pretty much just wanted to make sure we were on the same page and good together. He asked if we’ve talked about the major things (kids, finances, etc) and if we agree on these things or if there are issues.
Post # 6
I am using a minister who also does nonreligious weddings and interfaith weddings as well. So I am not really too worried about it, hes a non traditional man himself so I am pretty relaxed about it :). Good luck, and if they have a problem with it you can look for someone who does non traditional weddings and religious weddings aas well.