Post # 1
Hi, everyone! I just want to see if anyone out there has any advice or suggestions for me. My fiance and I have decided to get married at the courthouse on November 11th, next month. I’m really excited and everything, but he’s kind of indifferent. He says that just being with me is what he wants and that living together like we do now if enough for him. Should I be upset that he doesn’t seem to be as excited to marry me as I am to marry him?
Post # 2
cestdanielle: Well, you can’t make him get excited, so there isn’t much you can do. And since you are doing courthouse, my guess is that there isn’t a lot of planning or things for him to get super invested in. Perhaps he will show more enthusiasm closer to the date. At least he has expressed that he is happy with your relationship, and that is all that really matters.
Post # 3
It’s probably not the act of getting married he’s excited about. He’ll be spending the rest of his life with you. That’s excitable enough.
Post # 4
Should I be upset that he doesn’t seem to be as excited to marry me as I am to marry him?
What counts is that he is excited to marry you, not how he seems.
Post # 5
I don’t think it really matters since he’s stated he’s really happy just being with you (which is great!)
I get where you’re coming from but he probably knows that not much really changes after the wedding, especially if you’re already living together.
Post # 6
Omg date twin! It’s a GREAT day to get married.
And yes, I agree with PPs, as long as he’s excited about the marriage don’t think too much of him being un/excited about the wedding.
Post # 7
I think in general, guys don’t get as excited about weddings as girls do. I agree it’s a good sign that he does state he simply wants to be with you.
Post # 8
cestdanielle: Agree with all of the PPs. My FI is the same way, as I’m sure many are. He’s happy to get married, but care less about the wedding itself.
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
To me, being excited about a wedding is not important; being committed and happy to be a couple is what truly matters. Guys are mostly not into weddings, not even their own.