Post # 1
Hello all, I suppose this is my first post here on the boards, I’m a waiting bee, I’ve been with my SO for 21 months and we’ve been talking about marriage and kids since the beginning, but no ring yet.
Yesterday I got the call from my best friend who I have known since we were very little… she’s engaged! While I’m very happy for her and her Fiancee, I couldn’t help feeling sad that I wasn’t first (she’s been with her guy longer tho, and they’ve been living together).
This call caused a bunch of emotions, thoughts and actions throughout the rest of the day. I decided it was time to stop talking to my ex (who has been a thorn in my side for a while, I want a friendship… he wants a booty call), and then thought over my relationship seriously. I’ve always thought that SO and I would get married, have children and then around the 10 year mark we’ll be screaming at each other and headed towards divorce. I don’t know where this vision comes from, whether it’s a fear based on nothing, or an omen of some sort.
I ended up melting down via text on SO as he was commuting home from work. I had told him about my friend’s engagement and then basically did a sulky “I’m going to die alone” This upset him and he talked some sense into me and said that he has faith in us and our relationship 🙂 I still acted like a brat and asked him when I’d get that sparkly piece of jewelry and he said “When you least expect it” we talked a little more and I ended up saying I’d go crazy if I had to wait years for it, and he promised that I wouldn’t have to wait years lol so I hope that means I’ll be engaged before my Friend’s wedding lol
Post # 4
My good friend got engaged a couple days ago and it’s messing with my mind. I knew she was going to call me with the news because our mutual friend asked if I had called her back yet and I hadn’t received a call blah blah blah.
The worst part my BF and I had another frustrating talk about the future the night before. I texted him the news and he said “that’s exciting” but I knew in his head he was thinking “aw shit.”
Anyway, I’m trying not to be bitter but it’s hard. Just know that your BF gave you some great signs that he will propose soon. So, focus on that and try to be happy for her. Maybe her engagement vibes will rub off on you. 🙂
Post # 5
I hope that everything works out for the both of you!!
Post # 6
thanks everyone! I’m throwing myself into helping my best friend starting to plan her wedding (hopefully I can get a few ideas myself lol) I am a Graphic Designer and I’m going to be designing her Save the Dates, Invites, and any other stuff she needs, so I’m def in the wedding spirit. I went out yesterday to buy a Wedding Planner Binder and Groom’s Guide for the happy couple, and I was going to Mail it to her tomorrow (she lives a few states away now) and she IMed me today to tell me what one of her new friends had bought her… the exact same thing I had bought her lol oh well, so I told her I had bought it for her and told her that the next of my friends to get engaged will receive them lol. I told this to my SO this to which he said “What if you’re next?” 😀 I’m so giddy at that idea lol. I don’t think it’s right around the corner, but maybe in time for our 2 year anniversary in October? ::fingers crossed::
Post # 7
@annasaf83: Well the friend’s wedding is in a couple of months… still no proposal in sight! But at least I know he has the ring lol
Post # 8
@wanttobemrsb: I texted him the news and he said “that’s exciting” but I knew in his head he was thinking “aw shit.”
LOL! I know thats what my SO thinks every time one of our friends gets engaged or turns up prego. “aw shit…now I am gonna have to watch her make the kicked puppy face.”