(Closed) Melt Down…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Did I read correctly that he showed you the diamond with which he intends to propose to you?

That is terrible.  I’m really sorry.  He should feel bad and realize that teasing you like that is not nice.  He should feel bad.

Post # 4
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274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Double post

Post # 5
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253 posts
Helper bee

My SO teases me a little bit too. I finally told him he needs to stop because it gets my hopes up and when nothing happens I get upset and angry at him. He didn’t think it was a big deal because he thought I knew he was kidding and I told him that it wasn’t something to joke about. Finally he got the jist of it when I flipped on him and told him to not bring it up unless he was serious. He understood then and it’s gotten a lot better now.

I would just tell him how much teasing you hurts your feelings and that this is serious and not something to joke about. I hope that helps!

Post # 8
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363 posts
Helper bee

@SeattleMolly:

I TOTALLY understand what you are going through, really.  I haven’t had a “meltdown” yet (**knocks on wood**) but I can relate to what you are feeling.

I’m also the “secretary”, I organize our social events, keep our calendar in order, lists, etc.  We even went ring shopping together because I wanted to know EVERYTHING I could about the rings available and “choose” (note: turns out we actually ordered the ring *he* picked, but it was the best one and I love it).  So after my “choice” was made…..  It was out of my hands.  Aaaaaaaaah!  Talk about stressful.  I have no idea when it will arrive, when he will propose, what he’s planning, what he will say, etc.  I *know* all this is out of my control and he will organize something great, and whatever he does, I will be grateful, BUT, the journey to get there is so hard on me. 

I also can’t stop thinking about “details” of the wedding (venue, parents, which date?, etc).  Don’t get me wrong, I am going to work, going out, and not talking about it anymore, but it’s hard.  Some moments, I get so excited and teary, but I have to not let it show because I *really* want him to enjoy his experience too. 

So here I am waiting. It will come for us, we just have to be patient.  And when it does, it will be special no matter what because this is the men that we love.  In 5 years, we will laugh at this 🙂

Post # 9
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1325 posts
Bumble bee

So, if I’m to understand correctly, you are really upset that your grandmother possibly might not be around to go dress shopping with you? That is understandable!

If that is the case then I think you should go dress shopping with your mom and grandma when you visit. The guys don’t need to know! Tell them you are all having a girls day or something. Just view it as window shopping. You really want this special moment with your grandmother to happen and in light of the situation you should make it happen. Get an idea of what looks good on you. Take pics and notes. Have some fun!

Post # 10
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962 posts
Busy bee

@Tunacupcakes: I 110% agree with this. The proposal will eventually happen. The boys don’t need to know you are going dress shopping. This is a special thing for you to do with your grandma and you should do it!

Post # 11
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Busy bee

@Tunacupcakes: I 110% agree with this. The proposal will eventually happen. The boys don’t need to know you are going dress shopping. This is a special thing for you to do with your grandma and you should do it!

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