Post # 1
A week or so ago I posted this: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/do-i-tell-him-2?replies=24#post-3506189. It was about me seeing my dream ring on sale and being completely and irrationally obssessive about having to have it! Smh
If you read you’ll know that when I told him about it, the conversation kind of got outta hand I and I ended up saying some things I’m not proud of…mostly venting my frustrations with waiting. That was never my intention, but it just came out that way.
Since then my SO has been THE sweetest man ever to me. I totally didn’t expect it. This is how I KNOW he loves me, because he treats me like a queen even when I don’t deserve it. He’s reassured me multiple times that he’s still planning to propose and he’s just being overall sweet, loving, and more responsible.
I even looked at the site where the discounted ring was, and it’s gone!!! They only had one, and it took me a few days to build up the courage to look at it again, and I see that it’s been purchased! Trying no to get my hopes up, but there’s a chance that he bought it. And I’m finally in a place where I wouldn’t care either way. I’d be perfectly happy with whatever ring he chose to get me.
Things definitley happen for a reason. Because even though I regret my meltdown and showing that ugly, impatient, untrusting side of myself, it really helped me put things into perspective. It made me realize I have to trust him more, and that the ring is really minor in the big scheme of things. It also showed me how committed he is and how important it is to him to do everything right and surprise me, which is adorable. I’m kind of happy it played out this way, because I was slipping into a bad place. And this let me see that I have no reason not to be happy right now.
I’m finally in a better waiting place and I know it’s coming within the next few months. Hard to believe it’s so close!
Anyone else have an SO who just kept on being AMAZING even after your meltdown?
Post # 3
I had replied to your last post to say it sounds like he was being kind of stubborn. so maybe he realized that on his own! I’m so glad things worked out for you.
I had a non-wedding related meltdown the other night. I wanted to quit my job w/o having another one lined up — because I was soooo stressed out that I was worried this job is killing me. so, he kept telling me I should try to get a new job first, and I thought he was going to put his foot down. I had a major crying jag over it sunday night and spilled my guts to him. it turns out he just thought he was giving me good advice, and oh my goodness, of course he would support me quitting my job if I’m really that stressed out. I think I freaked him out quite a bit! now he has been nothing but super sweet to me. I’m super embarrased about my meltdown, and that is NOT the way I was planning on handling it, but it sure did get results. yay!
Post # 4
Glad it’s working out for you and you are in a better place.
Yes, I’ve had the meltdowns lately as well. They were not pretty but SO was so sweet and loving. He kept reminding me how far we have come and how he wants to be with me forever. Some men really are angels underneath!
Post # 5
I actually think its ok to have a lil break down. If you hold it all in how can they know your struggling with waiting? Its not to make them feel bad, but more so they know its important enough for you to worry about.
Post # 6
@janie-janie: I think I felt like he was being stubborn at first, but once he opened up about why it bothered him so much that I was suggesting he buy the ring, I understood a little better. My approach was too agressive, and he wants to be in control of every aspect of the proposal. He just wants me to trust him and be patient.
@Rush1986: I agree that somehow we have to find a way to communicate how we’re feeling about waiting and how we’re dealing with those feelings. I think what I had been trying to do in the past is tiptoe around the topic, gently nudge him, and mention here and there that I’m ready to take the next step. But he probably had no idea I was past ready! So you’re right. And in a way I’m glad it came out b/c now he knows, and in a backwards way he got some reassurance that I definitely wanna marry him. He doesn’t have to doubt in the least whether I’ll say yes!
Post # 7
Any other meltdown stories that ended up on a positive note?!
The more time that goes by the more I feel like I’m glad it played out the way it did. Everything happens for a reason. Our confrontation really allowed me to understand what’s going on in that head of his, and it calmed me down a LOT as a result.
Post # 8
My husband is incredibly patient with me and really, really sweet. He never loses his temper with me but always listens to my crap; including when I am melting down! He is much better at maintaining his composure than I am!
I hope things work out for you!
Post # 9
I’m glad you’re in a better place these days! I don’t have any personal stories of my own to add, but will keep my eye out for more updates from you. 🙂
Post # 10
I knew I found the one when he could handle all of my worrying and stressing!
one of my favorite quotes is “love me when I least deserve it, because that is when I really need it.”
Post # 11
@ViaMinorViator: There is nothing like a patient and loving husband! I think @DaisyDreamer put it best when she said “Some men really are angels underneath!”
@Juliepants: Thanks! I’ll definitely be keeping the bee posted!
@bookworm88: LOVE that quote 🙂