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No, it's a great song, but I'm sure there will be showers of tears though!
I'm so sorry about your father. I'm struggling with the same thing. My dad passed away when I was 16. Mom remarried a couple of years ago and I like her husband a lot but he was never a father figure since I was already in my 20s when they met. Mom is going to walk me down the aisle, but I don't know what to do about a dance. I keep thinking to either 1) not do any parent dances or 2) ask my uncle to "fill in." I'm just worried that having someone stand in while make the loss feel even stronger on what will already be a day where I really, really miss my sweet father. I'm not sure what the best option is, but I wish you all the best.
julialimei-I'm so sorry to hear about your father as well. i think it will be sad no matter what, but I think its nice to have one part of the day to be in rememberance. I think it would be nice to have your uncle fill in. I'm sure he'd be honored. I'm looking at it as even though I will miss my father on my wedding day, i know he'd be proud of the lady i've become and he will absolutely be there with me that day, as will yours! Best Wishes!
Thanks so much for your kind words fishwoman :-) You're right, it will be sad no matter what. And I totally agree that finding part of the day for rememberance is so important. I definitely want to find a way to do that that feels meaningful and special. I recently saw posts from people who carried a small locket with a photo attached to their bouquet. I like that idea a lot. I hope I'll figure it out eventually. No matter what either of us decides though, I agree that our fathers will be there in spirit and would be so proud. I guess the "right" thing is to do whatever feels best and most meaningful as a way to remember and honor them. All the best to you :-)
Hey Julialiemi-looks like you are getting married around the same time as me. What things do youalready have in place? Doesn't next year feel so far away!?
We actually haven't set our date yet...I just took a rough guess when registering for the site :-) But that whole time frame does feel a long way off! I'm excited to get planning. How about your plans? I hope you've been having fun with it!
Just getting the big things out of the way. I really wanted to get married in the fall cuz where we are gettingmarried is beautiful, but i was worried 9 months wouldn't be long enough, but now i'm realizing it probably would have been fine. I kinda had an idea of everything I wanted anyway. Me and Mr.Fish were together for over 4 years before getting engaged and we're older, i'm 30 and he's 32. Probably still could do it in fall, but extra time means moremoney to save anyways! Any dates you are thinking of?
We're almost having parallel experiences! I also have always really want to get married in the fall, but I think we'll have to go for summer because I recently went back to grad school (while working full time) and have to plan around my academic calendar. We've also been together four and a half years and are similar in age to you two! (I'm 30, he's 35). I guess I'm mostly thinking June-Aug 2011, but am also considering if a winter wedding in Jan would be an option. My ideal choice is still Sept or Oct, but I don't think I want to take a semester off and set my schedule behind like that. I'm actually waiting for him to officially ask, which should be any day now!! We picked out the ring and have been talking tons about ideas, but he's still plotting away :-) I can barely contain my excitement--the waiting is actually tougher now that I know it could be any moment!
My dad passed away when I was 9 and I am also lucky to have a wonderful step-dad. We are going to have a vase of roses up front with us in memory of all the family members we have lost.
I love the idea of doing a special dance/song. I would totally be a basket case though.
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Hi all, not getting married until next may, but already thinking of ideas. My father passed away when I was 13. I have a wonderful stepfather that will walk me down the aisle and who will dance a father/daughter dance. I'd like to dance with my brother as well to a song in memory of my father. Luther Vandross' "dance with my father". Its a sad song, but I want to have a moment to remember my dad that day. Do you think that its too depressing of a song for that day? I'm not meaning it to be.