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    destiny1120    November 20, 2011  

    I am so sad right now and just need to vent.  

    A few days ago my 89 year old grandma was hospitalized for a broken arm. (No big deal right) After extensive tests they found her hip was also about to break and decided she needed surgery to replace it immediately (even before the fix her arm).  So after waiting almost 2 days they finally came to take her for surgery.  I was there holding her hand before they rolled her away.  

    Let me  back track a bit.  My Grandma is the most active, healthy, amazing woman I know.  She has outlived 2 husbands and is going strong with her current boyfriend of 6 years.    At 89 she still rides a bike, swims daily, tap dances and belly dances.  She is always smiling and loves the life she lives.  

    Well imagine our surprise when the Dr. calls as she is on the operating table to say she is in cardiac arrest.  Apparently she has had a rare heard condition for years that no one ever discovered, among many other problems (also unknown until yesterday).  She has not woken up yet and is on full life support.  I go to the hospital everyday to talk to her and she is barely responses.  Sometimes her eyes open but the nurses say she is not awake.  I believe she hears me and knows I am there.  

    I am asking for anyone and everyone to keep us in yours thoughts.  I have never been a very spiritual person but I really feel it could help.  I can't imagine losing her.  I can't imagine her missing all the exciting and happy moments in our lives in the near future (There is my upcoming wedding, and 2 of my cousins are also getting married between now and June 2012) She also has her 2nd great grandchild being born in August.  

    How can things change so quickly? Just 2 weeks ago we were laughing and swimming and eating with her.   I am in need of a miracle...

    **Thanks for reading if you got this far** It feels good to see all the words in my head**

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I'm so sorry.

     
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    MrsSl82be    October 24, 2009  

    So sorry to hear this.  I hope things work out for the best. ((HUGS))

     
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    Tunacupcakes       NW

    :(

    Hopefully she'll pull through! When people have something to live for and have optimistic dispositions (which is sounds like your grandma has) they have better chances of recovering from this sort of thing.

    Continue to visit her since it also does her good. 

     
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    Niqs    March 3, 2012   South Africa

    Love hugs and positive energy to your gran, you and your family. I am very sorry that you are going through this.

     
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    KendallR10    November 5, 2016   Oregon

    Keep us updated :] You're in my thoughts and prayers

     
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    Irishowl1976    August 15, 2008   Sacramento, CA

    She hears you, even if she can't respond. I've worked in healthcare for 12 years and have had many patients who were on full life support later talk about people who visited them while in ICU. It sounds like your Grandma is an amazing and strong woman. I pray she will come out of this, I'm so sorry your family is going through this.

     

     

     
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    RR    October 2012  

    Oh dear, I'm so sorry you and your family are going through this.  Especially your grandmother, she sounds like a tough cookie.  I have a short story to share with you.  My Aunt came in town and myself, my mom, and my other 2 Aunts and my Uncle all went out to dinner.  My one Aunt is 70 and walks with a walker but was doing just fine going any place she needed to.  She got up and went to the restroom by herself and about 5 mins later the waiter comes to our table and said my Aunt needed us.  She said that she opened the big heavy door and it came back and hit her in the leg and she heard a crack. So we called an ambulance to take her for x-rays.  We shortly went to the ER and they said she broke her leg and we figured it would just need a cast.  The next thing we know, the following morning when we call (she told my other Aunt she lives with to just go home and that'd she'd call in the morning for a pick up) she is in ICU on a ventilator.... WHAT?!  They said her breathing was bad so they sedated her and put her on a ventilator and was now in the ICU. What?!  We were just at dinner together?!?!?!? She stayed like that for a couple weeks, finally had the surgery and then went was discharged to rehab and then came home.  It was still the oddest thing to this day. Your grandma sounds like a tough cookie, she does know you are there. It's always good to pray, it's never to late to start.  My thoughts are with you.

     
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    destiny1120    November 20, 2011  

    @RR: Thanks for the story. :-)

    I am doing all I can to stay positive and pray she will pull out of it.  Its been almost 24 hours. 

    @Irishowl1976: Do you know how long its possible to be on life support and still recover?

     
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    Sunshine1810    October 8, 2011   New Hampshire

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your grandma! She can definitely hear you.  My sister was on life support for a month and when she woke up she said she remembered me reading to her and could hear some people when they came to visit her.

     
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    HisIrishPrincess    March 23, 2012  

    thoughts and prayers are with you and your family

     

     
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    amnystik    April 9, 2011   Texas

    Sorry to hear that all this is happening to you and your family. ((hugs)) I will be praying for the full recovery of your grandmother, that all the Doctors will be led by God's spirit, and that you will all have the strength and peace needed in your hearts at this time. and just know that God still does miralces today ;)

     
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    ellabee    July 3, 2011   Virginia

    @destiny1120:I will pray for her and your family, too. Stay strong for her, and keep visiting her room.   Hugs!

     
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    destiny1120    November 20, 2011  

    Thank you all so much! 

    @Sunshine1810: Thank you so much for sharing- I have some hope now that she can wake up!

     
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    Zinzerena    April 14, 2012   Virginia

    So, so sorry to hear this!  My thoughts are with you and your family.  Hopefully she'll make a speedy recovery, her heart problems will be controlled (since they can rarely be "cured", alas), and she's back to her usual daily routine. :)

     

     
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    peaches13    July 9, 2011   Texas

    Prayers.  Just went through a very similiar situation a few weeks ago with my father.  The doctors told us hearing is the last sense to go...so yes, she can likely hear you, even if she can't respond.  Hang in there!

     
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    jesleigh    July 21, 2012  

    Sorry to hear this. I'm saying a prayer for recovery, peace, and comfort for your grandmother, you and your family right now. :::Hugs to you::::

     
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    mrsmurraytobe    June 11, 2011   Atlanta

    O my word, I am so sorry! My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Just hang in there and don't give up on speaking to her; I truly believe she can hear you and I'm sure it's a comfort to both of you right now. Hang in there, sweet girl *hugs*

     
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    Bellanouva    July 19, 2013   Vancouver

    Im so sorry to hear this *hugs* My thoughts are with you

     
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    kt23525    June 2011  

    so sorry to hear this :( My grandparents who I'm really close to haven't been doing very well lately & like you, I can't imagine life without them.  I will definitely keep you & your family in my thoughts & prayers.  

     
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    RR    October 2012  

    @destiny1120: Any update?

     

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