Post # 1
This year my grandparents would have been married 50 years. My grandad died about three years ago. I’m not super close to my grandma but I’d like to do something to honor them and their marriage at the wedding.
We’re having a family picture display so I was thinking maybe a candle by it? I was also thinking about giving her my bouquet but was not sure how to do it. Any ideas?
Post # 4
We are planning on doing a flower bouquet in rememberance of our grandparents.
Post # 5
We’re having pictures blown up of my grandparents and his grandfather and they will be on each of our sides.
Post # 6
I like the candle idea. Its subtle but you can definately understand the symbolism.
Post # 7
@Sassygrn: Where are you putting the bouquet? At the ceremony? At the reception? Is there some kind of signage involved?
Post # 8
I am honoring my grandfather with my candy table. He used to call me his “5 pounds of sugar” as I was a preemie (was born a month early and could not leave the hospital till I was 5 lbs…. which happend Christmas Eve). I am going to make a sign that says something like, “Love is sweet!” “Enjoy some 5 pounds of sugar”. I will also have photos of deceased grandparents/parents (FI’s mom died when he was 5).
Post # 9
@TraceyPat: Are you going to have anything explaining that to your guests? Or just leave it so only insiders get it?
I mean, I guess I could just give my grandma the bouquet but I’d like to honor them at the reception. We are doing a moment of silence for those who couldn’t be with us at the ceremony but that was more a nod towards my biological family (who I don’t know…I’m adopted) and also doesn’t recognize what would have been fifty years of marriage this year…
You know how they do “anniversary dances”? Where all married couples get on the dance floor and the longest married couple gets the bouquet? I’m looking for a similar idea…only its not like I can have my widowed grandma get out there on the dance floor. Help!!!!! Google returns nothing…:(
Post # 10
You could just include it in your speech (if you do one) at the reception…..kind of “thanks everyone, you’re awesome, we’re awesome, marriage is awesome…and I learned a lot about marriage from my grandparents, and while grandpa isn’t here in body, he’s always here in spirit…because of how much I love them, I’d lilke to give my bouquet to grandma…”
Be sure you talk to your grandmother about it first. I was going to have an empty seat with a rose on it by my grandmother’s seat at the ceremony in honor of my grandfater, but she asked me not to because she said it would make her sad. I’ll just be doing a moment of silence for those not with us, and then the day after the wedding Fiance and I will go and put my bouquet on grandpa’s grave.
Post # 11
@nmsoonerbride: Could you write something in the program? “Thank you grandma and grandpa for showing us how a marriage should be.”
Post # 12
@nmsoonerbride: Good point on asking her first…I also like the idea of leaving a chair open for him. The speech thing would work too. Thanks:)