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I would get one of those wedding list checklist/timelime books, with all the deeds, actions, purchases, etc that you need. Or make one in excel and make him see how much work there is left to do. Also you can start by crossing off things you don't need and budget time for the rest.
Plan to knock out a few items from our list every weekend, so the whole weekend isn't taken up by wedding stuff, but you still get things done. And schedule it in advance (This week is invites, next week we are going to see the band, etc). This should help ou relax by knowing it will all be done, and it will not overwhelm either of you.
I totally understand where you’re coming from, and am so happy you posted! My FI is the same way, and it’s driving me crazy! We finally decided to have our wedding in LA (where we live) after thinking about a destination wedding in New Orleans (where he’s from); then a week after we made the decision to have it in LA he posted a poll on Facebook (ugg FB!) asking who would come to NOLA and who would come to LA. I let him know I was NOT happy about this and he reply was, ‘we don’t even have a venue’ I don’t see what the big deal is. The big deal is, I’VE been researching vendors out here the whole time. While he’s sitting around buying a new toy, I’m working and he just doesn’t get it.
Anyway after he saw how stressed I was and I wrote him a list of everything I have to think of and plan he understood a lil bit more.
We are hoping for a September wedding too. I also got a wedding planner book, and that has helped me. Also The Knot, has a good planning tool.
GOOD LUCK!
@Gleamingbridexo: Take his advice, and do try to relax. Get all that negative energy out of your system, because it doesn't help you, and it doesn't help him hear your message to him. I was there once too, so I totally get you! Here are a few tips:
After you've taken a few deep breaths, organize in black and white exactly WHAT you need done, HOW to accomplish it, and WHEN to do it by.
Next, make sure you tell him in advance you need to chat with him. Make sure it does not conflict with any of his little shows, his video gaming, or his trip to the grocery store. Make it a comfortable, convienient time for the both of you. Heck, maybe take him to lunch on a Saturday in a restaraunt devoid of televisions on the wall, and bring your binder of info with you to chat about jobs. Split up the tasks amongst yourselves, and tell him how important it is to you.
If he doesn't seem as receptive after you have a genuinely calm heart to heart, maybe seek out a lady friend who seems to be beside herself with excitement over helping you. Friends like that do exist, and often you don't need to ask twice for someone to chomp at the bit. Many will be so stinking excited that you're getting married, they will jump at the chance to help you.
I know it's not a perfect situation where you want to be working 50/50 alongside a guy who is equally excited about planning a big fat wedding as you are, but really, he's looking forward to all the action on the honeymoon. You're right, that's just how guys operate. I know it's stressful-- keep checking in with us, and we'll try to help!
Thank you all SO much!!! I'm so making a list on theknot.com, it looks SO useful! And I've officially picked my dress, shoes, garter belt & tiara for all under $400 bucks! No help from him, but it's okay, I'll get 'em for this other stuff. Getting the photography-video guys this weekend! Excited!
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Hello dear bees xo
So, there is EXACTLY 6 months & 21 days until our BIG DAY! I know, I know...it sounds like a long days away, but come on ladies, we ALL know how much of a hassle it is to get everything organized and ready. So far, since our engagment which was the 11th of November, we've done....*drum rolllllll* RESERVED THE VENUE!
That's a big deal, since the place we reserved sell dates to couples like hot cakes. But come on, when you really look at everything as a whole, it's like we got NOTHING done! And now I'm getting a bit nervous. My fiance is being very mellow & laid-back about all this, which is just how he is about everything. He has an old friend with a wedding band that he wants to book, but I don't want to book them until we actually SEE them play & hear their sound. We haven't spoken to the priest, seen when the couple sessions at church are, haven't bought ANY materials to make our invatations (yes, WE want to make our own invitations, but HE doesn't want to ever go to actually get the darn things!) We're not financially in a stub, we're both working with pretty steady incomes, and our parents are helping out as much as they can too. But now I'm biting my nails at the end of the day realizing about how little we got done. My fiance is wonderful, and he's very supportive, but when he FEELS like it. We've been together for 3 years, moved in together in September, got engaged in November and now we're planning a wedding...it's a BIG DEAL. But it's always the same.
Chill out.
It's so far from now, relax.
We'll do that next weekend, relax.
Relax, relax, relax.
GRRRRR, he's like a laid-back lazy teenage stoner sometimes when he keeps telling me to relax! He doesn't talk to me like how we used to talk. In the beginning, he would look me in the eyes & would talk to me about ANYTHING, no matter how small or petty, for HOURS. Now, God forbid I stand in front of the television while he's watching his show, while I'm trying to talk to him. He's like a wall sometimes. And this is not just some ''no-big-deal event.'' It's our wedding. I know women are from Venus, men are from Mars. But is there any way to drag him down to our planet just to get this THROUGH his head!? Has anyone else had this problem?
Please help!
Thank you Bees xoxoxox