ZebraPrintMe: Three of my friends don’t wear bands regulary. One has a valid reason: He works in construction with machines and fork lifts so that’s understandable. He only wears it when they go out to events, or social gatherings.
The other friend wear watches, just wasn’t used to having a band on his finger and it felt odd to him. He does wear it just not all the time, for example when he’s bowling, doesn’t wear it. Sometimes when he’s drawing, doesn’t wear it, but he usually wears it. He’s been married two months now so he wears it more often when I see him. Another friend of ours takes it off when he’s in the back working on machines, or just doing things with his hands (but he’s a righty, so not too sure on why he needs to take it off for some things).
My husband never wears a watch or any type of jewelry, so when it came to ring time, I was worried he just wouldn’t wear one. But he was the one looking at rings for him (we picked out our own rings) so I figured he was going to wear a ring. When he found his ring and bought it, it came when he was sick for two days (he ordered it from overstock) and when I gave it to him to try on, he wore it those two days before going back to work. Which allowed him to get used to it. He told me after he went back to work, he kept rubbing and touching where the ring had been because he had gotten used to it being there. We’ve been married for three months and he’s maybe taken it off once or twice? I’ve taken my rings off more than he has and he works where occasionally he has to go into the back with machines (bowling alley) so that surprised me.
What about getting your husband to wear something on his finger to get used to it? Saying “I don’t wear jewelry” is not an excuse. Unless he works in a job where his finger could get torn off I don’t see a valid reason in not wearing it. And the whole “We’re still married even if I’m not wearing a ring.” wouldn’t do it for me either. In fact, when I had to send my rings in to get sized (the first time after we were engaged, I hated it because I ran around being like I’m engaged, just no ring) and then I sent them in to be soldered, and ran around with no wedding band or ering for the first month of marriage, loved that one too.
Definitely agree with a trial period at least. he shouldn’t knock it until he tries it. Have you thought about just seeing rings that may peak his interest? My husband had more fun looking at the various rings than sitting down and figuring out what the heck he wanted. It took about a week for him to know what he wanted. Also, there are different places, not just the mass and well known places like Aucoin Heart, Kay, Jared, etc. Try Etsy, seriously, they have lots of nice jewelry there, that can be customized to what he wants. Or if he wants something simple, overstock had a nice stock of men’s rings.
Sorry for the novel.