(Closed) Men who don't want to wear wedding rings?

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

ZebraPrintMe:  My husband does not wear a wedding ring. He made it clear from the beginning that he finds all jewelry uncomfortable (he won’t wear a watch either) and it would get in the way with his job. It. Upset me in the beginning but now I don’t care. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

My husband always wears his wedding band.  The more you wear it the less you notice it.  

Post # 5
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537 posts
Busy bee

There’s always the non-traditional route. He could get one tattooed on him or put your initials on the inside of his finger so it’s less noticeable. I don’t know if his career allows tattoos to show, but it’s definitely a non-conventional option. 

At first I think it would bother me — my FI actually wears an engagement ring, too, a beautiful celtic dragon men’s ring — but I think after awhile I’d get over it and realize it’s not his thing to wear jewelry. The important part is that you’re married, and you don’t need a ring 🙂

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

My now husband had told me when we got engaged that he probably wouldnt wear a ring as hed think its uncomfortable and hed loose it fast. Fast forward we wend wedding band shopping he found a ring he loved and has been wearing it ever since. My advice is let him pick one he loves in a store preferably where he could try it and find something he really likes Also tell him how you would feel if he didnt wear it.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

DH didn’t want one or wear it everyday but he does because I want him to and it’s become his little fidget toy when he gets nervous. He says he feels naked without it now. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 1975

ZebraPrintMe:  Ok… Not my FI… But me…

I have an engagement ring that I love (to look at), it’s so beautiful, but with my job field and active lifestyle, I don’t like to wear it very often (not all that comfortable) nor do I ever feel like I have the opportunity to wear it (except for nice events out or when I’m posting pics of it on the Bee, lol). I prefer to wear a skinny 3mm Tungsten Carbide band daily. It’s small, thin & comfortable. Got it from EBay at $6.99, so that’s something you could show to your FI. Maybe he would like something like that. 

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

My husband never takes his off. But I haven’t worn mine in months. We both work in an office so that’s not why I won’t wear mine.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

ZebraPrintMe:  my guy was not sure he wanted to wear a ring. He thought it would bug him constantly.  I wasn’t going to insist on it, obviously, because it’s his body – but I asked him to try wearing it for a month and then if he didn’t like it, so be it. 

Well I put it on his hand at our wedding and he’s never taken it off! It took him a couple days to get used to it and now he really likes wearing it. So try asking for a little trial period?

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 1995

My husband wore his for about a year . Once in the winter his hands were cold and he nearly lost it so he took it off saying he would get it sized but that was the end of that LOL and he has never worn it since. I mention it now and then and he always says well I’ll get to it. He is not much of a jewelry person either and probably would either break or lose it eventually

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

ZebraPrintMe:  Three of my friends don’t wear bands regulary.  One has a valid reason: He works in construction with machines and fork lifts so that’s understandable.  He only wears it when they go out to events, or social gatherings.

 The other friend wear watches, just wasn’t used to having a band on his finger and it felt odd to him.  He does wear it just not all the time, for example when he’s bowling, doesn’t wear it.  Sometimes when he’s drawing, doesn’t wear it, but he usually wears it.  He’s been married two months now so he wears it more often when I see him.  Another friend of ours takes it off when he’s in the back working on machines, or just doing things with his hands (but he’s a righty, so not too sure on why he needs to take it off for some things).  

My husband never wears a watch or any type of jewelry, so when it came to ring time, I was worried he just wouldn’t wear one.  But he was the one looking at rings for him (we picked out our own rings) so I figured he was going to wear a ring.  When he found his ring and bought it, it came when he was sick for two days (he ordered it from overstock) and when I gave it to him to try on, he wore it those two days before going back to work.  Which allowed him to get used to it.  He told me after he went back to work, he kept rubbing and touching where the ring had been because he had gotten used to it being there.  We’ve been married for three months and he’s maybe taken it off once or twice?  I’ve taken my rings off more than he has and he works where occasionally he has to go into the back with machines (bowling alley) so that surprised me.

What about getting your husband to wear something on his finger to get used to it? Saying “I don’t wear jewelry” is not an excuse.  Unless he works in a job where his finger could get torn off I don’t see a valid reason in not wearing it.  And the whole “We’re still married even if I’m not wearing a ring.” wouldn’t do it for me either.  In fact, when I had to send my rings in to get sized (the first time after we were engaged, I hated it because I ran around being like I’m engaged, just no ring) and then I sent them in to be soldered, and ran around with no wedding band or ering for the first month of marriage, loved that one too.

Definitely agree with a trial period at least.  he shouldn’t knock it until he tries it.  Have you thought about just seeing rings that may peak his interest?  My husband had more fun looking at the various rings than sitting down and figuring out what the heck he wanted.  It took about a week for him to know what he wanted.  Also, there are different places, not just the mass and well known places like Aucoin Heart, Kay, Jared, etc.  Try Etsy, seriously, they have lots of nice jewelry there, that can be customized to what he wants.  Or if he wants something simple, overstock had a nice stock of men’s rings.

Sorry for the novel.

Post # 13
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537 posts
Busy bee

ZebraPrintMe:  I completely understand. I just wanted to throw an option your way I agree with one of the PP. Maybe there’s a ring out there that is really light and comfortable that he’ll like. My friend’s father made a ring out of wood for his son-in-law since he didn’t really like to wear jewelry and he loves it since it’s so smooth and light. Whatever your FI chooses to do, at least you’ll know he’s going to become your husband no matter what, haha.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

Have you checked out alternative style rings like silicone or wood? A lot of men don’t like wedding rings because they’re heavy and constrictive and sometimes a material other than metal can help that

Also what a previous poster said, try and let him pick out his own ring and forget matching yours or being traditional. We’ve settled on a “Tron” style ring for my FI and he is very excited about it

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Yeah, see if he’ll agree to a trial period. I hate jewelry on my hands and wrists and was very worried that I would hate wearing my rings everyday. At first i would take them off all the time to sleep, shower, and everything. But, of course, I got used to it with time and now they don’t bother me at all. If he still hates it after a couple weeks then be gracious and let him decide for himself.

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