Mens Engagement Ring. Necessary?

posted 2 years ago in Rings
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

JoeyF1970:  Totlly unnecessary, but if she is pushing it, it’s obviously important to her. Maybe you can get 2 skinny bands (one for now and one for after you are married) and have them soldered into one band when you get married?

Post # 3
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I don’t think it’s necessary at all. But I think it’s important to talk with her and find out why she wants you to wear one. Generally when I hear of a girl insisting on her fiance wearing a men’s engagement ring, it’s because she thinks he’s going to cheat on her and wants to “stake her claim,” per se. If that’s the case, big red flags all around.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

It isn’t necessary. My fiance wears one but only because it was his choice. He thought it was weird that a woman’s engagement ring claimed that she was betrothed but a man didn’t have to wear one so people could assume he was single. He asked me to get one for him so I agreed. 

If it’s important to your fiance you should talk to her, but I don’t think it’s necessary. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

akirasan:  Every time I hear about a guy wanting an engagement ring, I think of Boy Meets World when Cory wanted one because Topanga’s was pretty. Haha 🙂

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

My FI and I recently bought stand in rings to wear on vacations, and he’s been wearing his occasionally even though he insists its not his “engagement ring” and he’s “just getting used to wearing a ring”. It’s completely up to you if you want to wear one. I’d ask your fiancé why she’s so insistant on you wearing one. If you’re still not into it, then tell her so. Let her know you look forward to wearing your band as a married man, but not before. 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

alexsquared:  LOL! That’s hilarious. Reminds me of the episode when they went to the fake Hooters and he took the ring off. 

FI actually had an engagement ring before I even had one haha. 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Completely not necessary. Neither is an engagement ring for a lady. Obviously if someone, male or female, wants an engagement ring then, by all means, have at it but no, they’re not a necessity.

Why does your FI want you to wear one? It is an emerging trend at the moment with Johnny Depp and Zayn Malik being two celebs who choose to wear an engagement ring. Michael Buble also wore one – I don’t knwo if he still does – and Jennifer Hudson bought an engagement ring for her fiance, David Otunga. Does she want people to know you are ‘taken’?

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 1975

JoeyF1970:  Rings for both men and women are not necessary. It’s just nice & customary (typically for the woman).

My FI wears a mangement ring, because he wanted to. He loves his ring. It never comes off. And he tells everybody why he wears it when they question him. It’s a (dark silver) Tungsten Carbide ring. He’ll also wear that as his wedding band.

Have a dicussion with your FI. Hear them out about why they would like for you to wear one. And make sure to let them know why you don’t want to. I’m sure you 2 will reach an agreement.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

JoeyF1970:  Engagement rings for men are a very new thing. If a guy wants one, then great. But if you don’t want one, you shouldn’t be forced to wear one. 

The bottom line is it’s your finger and your choice. (BTW the same is true about whether she wears an engagement ring).

Post # 11
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Busy bee

If you don’t want to wear one then don’t. A partner shouldn’t force the other to do things they don’t want. That said, I bought my non-jewellery wearing fiance an engagement ring as a surprise (fully returnable incase he didn’t want it!), but he’s really taken to it. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee

If you don’t want to wear one you don’t have to. That being said don’t be mad or upset if she decides not to wear hers, since this is obviously important to her.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

JoeyF1970: why does she want you to wear a mangagement ring?

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

alexsquared: interesting generalization. is that why women wear engagement rings? So we don’t cheat on our men?

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

bitsybee: I think it’s more the other way around: to signal to men “I’m taken”. 

Of course that begs the question – why shouldn’t men want to do the same? I think the answer is men say “I’m taken” in different ways. Men just (usually) don’t care for jewellery as much.

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