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My girlfriend did this for her husband. He now wears his engagement ring on his right hand, and his wedding band on his left.
I'm not sure there is an etiquette on this or if there is I've never heard of it- If you want advice- I would have him wear it on his right hand because left hand means he's married no matter how you look at it. If you/he don't care if he looks like he's married then go for it.
My fiance wears his engagement ring on his right hand, index finger. It's neat because people definitely noticed when he started wearing it, and asked if it was an engagement ring (since he never wears jewelry otherwise). We wanted him to be able to continue to wear it after the wedding, when he also has a ring on his traditional left hand ring finger. We toyed with him wearing the e-ring on his thumb too.
My FI wore his ering on his right hand and stlll does. I got it on www.signals.com and it says "anam cara" which is gaelic for "soul friend" it looks so awesome now with the titanium wedding ring I got him with a black celtic knot design that he wears on his left hand. And I'm so excited to see this trend. I say do whatever makes sense to you guys I've learned as I've gotten older that I can't live my life worrying about what some person who doesn't know me *might* think. if he wants to wear it on his left hand then go for it. If he wants to eventually wear two rings, then go for it. If someone mistakes him for being married then, oh well. Good luck!
I've heard from a German friend that this is quite common in Germany.
Indiebride's kvetch boards had a whole thread on men's engagement rings a while back. Many women also did a mutual proposal to their fiances.
Main thread:
This poster says that in Germany, men wear their engagement rings on the opposite hand and switch it after marriage.
Other places men's engagement rings are mentioned.
thanks guys!
i think i've pretty much decided that i want to get something with an etching/design that will look nice next to a solid band wedding ring. and, i'll leave what to do with it up to him, but will suggest soldering them.
so, if there are any real problems with that, please let me know!
as far as where to wear it while engaged, im still torn. i know that wearing it on his left hand will say he's married, not engaged, but im afraid it will lose significance on his right hand. like mytf, my guy doesnt wear any other jewelry, so it will make a statement, but i still don't know...
Wow! I had no idea so many people get their hubbies to be e-rings, or as I like to call them "man-gagement" rings!
My fiance would never go for this sort of thing, although is a heavy duty mechanic and will be unable to wear his wedding band at work anyway.
Definitely not my thing, but it's really cool to see how many of you are doing tihs!
a guy i work with is engaged and wears a plain silver band on his left ring finger. everybody - i mean EVERYBODY - assumed he just got married. i like the idea of wearing it on the right hand so that when a band finally goes on the left, it's got a different meaning.
my fiance doesn't wear one.. he said he would if i wanted him to, but he didn't particularly wanted one. and if he did want one, he wanted something different when we got married, so we decided just to save the money. :)
however, i still think it's a really good idea! i'd say right hand or left hand is ok - depends if he wants the change when you get married.
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augh, okay, so i went into a few ring stores yesterday and asked around about some things... now im adding more questions:
1) the sales lady mentioned thinner rings "harder to wear" for men. when i asked about it, she had a pretty vague answer. what does this mean?
2) in an attempt to solve the apparent "thin rings are hard to wear" issue, she suggested i get a normally think ring as the engagement ring, and then add a very very thin ring as a wedding band later. i wanted to have two somewhat thin bands, equal in size side by side. she said "well, it could be just like women's rings - they get a big engagement ring and add a small, insignificant band to complement it..." i really don't like the idea of considering a wedding band "insignificant". anyway, am i crazy to hope for equal sizes to put together, and should i just give in to the "big engagement ring, small wedding band" thing?
3) metal. the places i went only had gold/white gold and platinum. i asked about titanium bands, and was told that the intricate designs i wanted would not work on titanium, because it is harder to work with. i also mentioned palladium, and i don't remember if her answer was the same, r if he just brushed past it because they don't carry palladium rings. would it really be a problem to get the ring i want in either of these metals?
okay, that's all for now. haha.
thanks so much for your responses so far!
when we were engaged, my grandparents actually gifted us with matching rings!
The rings are super nice so we didn't want them to be just sitting around. I wear mine on my right ring finger and my fiance wears his on his left ring finger. At first I was hesitant about the idea, bc I didn't want the real wedding band to lose its effect. But almost everyone we know, knows we're just engaged. When we meet new people, they definitely ask us if we're married or not and we simply reply "no not yet, but we both have engagement rings." They are intrigued at the idea and almost everyone comments "Very True! Guys should have to show the world they're taken too!"
I really like your engagement band/wedding band idea. If you get similar styles, it'll prob look like one ring! And if your fiance doesn't mind, I think it's totally cool if he wears both (one on each hand).
Although after the wedding, my fiance is going to wear only the wedding band, we'll be engaged for almost a year and a half by the time of our wedding so I feel like the engagement ring will have done its job (and it'll be a nice keepsake for him).
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Sakoro is right. I am from Germany and that is what men do. They have an engagement ring and then switch the ring over to the other hand after the wedding. I think it's quite neat. Shows the world too that your man is 'taken' LOL
I wished it was the same for us women. Why do we need so many bling blings? One ring is enough for me. I don't need another ring.
My fiance wears a band on his left hand. It's going to be his wedding band. I think it's sweet but people are sometimes confused by it... now when people ask if he's married he just tends to say "yes" rather than explaining the concept of the male engagement ring. I've also seen guys wear rings that look non-weddingy on their left hand (like a signet rignt) when they were engaged.
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I got my FI a beveled, stainless steel and gold band for his left hand. Yah, people assume he's married, but he's in the army and i wanted him to have it while he was deployed.
Nice and durable! He started carrying it around in his pocket though b/c he got real tired of the "why aren't you married? who doesn't get married before they get deployed?" etc.
it just shows he's mine and you can't have him 
My fiancé was ambivalent about getting an engagement ring. I thought it was a good idea since it symbolizes an equal commitment on his part. It turned out to be a good decision, and I would highly recommend e-rings for men with little experience wearing jewelry.
The plain sterling silver band I bought my fiancé was the first ring he'd ever owned. Wearing it for a while helped him develop an opinion on how he'd want his wedding band to be. He went from requesting the plainest, most inexpensive gold band available to wanting something more complex.
His wedding ring is a simple but unique band with alternating palladium and palladium-alloyed white gold in an ergonomic shape. Once we're married, he'll keep the silver engagement ring as a travel decoy.
The only drawback is that, yes, some people will think you eloped!
My fiance wears his engagement ring on his left hand. He'll be getting a thicker wedding band to wear when we get married and I think the engagement ring will then become a family heirloom, since he doesn't want to wear two rings. People are curious to know the story as to why he wears an engagement ring and he's all too happy to tell everyone!
We initially looked for a set of two rings that could perhaps join together or look nice together, but he couldn't find anything he loved, so two separate rings it was!
We did two rings as well. Ours are both tungsten carbide, his looks like this:
I'm not sure what they meant about thinner rings being difficult to wear. That's odd.
My partner had what we called "boy bling" or a mangagement ring while we were engaged. He now wears that ring on his right hand and his wedding ring on his left. Sometimes I think he even likes his engagement ring better than his wedding ring!
I did this! He had a simple steel band on his right ring finer. He'll probably still wear it when he gets his wedding band. He wears it everyday so it still looks like he's off the market.
Men's engagement rings are so in right now! The singer Michael Buble has one. Seems everyone is doing it and why not, I mean I think it's amazing that your fiance/boyfriend wants to show everyone that he is committed to you (and you to him).
The NYTimes did a great article on men's engagement rings to prove my point.
http://www.nytimes.com/2010/08/01/fashion/.../01FIELD.html
I agree with knudsonwedding's friend who's husband put the wedding band on his left and the engagement ring on his right!
Now I'm wondering why my own fiance didn't do a men's engagement. Sort of regret that decision. If I was able to choose an engagement ring for him, I would go for the great selection at James Allen, http://www.jamesallen.com It's the site where I got my ring and I just love it. They have a great selection of men's carved and diamond rings. Yes, it's in the wedding ring section, but I still think they can be used as engagement rings.
http://www.jamesallen.com/wedding-and-anniversary/Mens-Carved-Rings/
http://www.jamesallen.com/wedding-and-anniversary/Mens-Diamond-Rings/
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Hello bees! My boyfriend/FI (we know we're engaged, but nothing is official yet due to health issues with my father, etc) just informed me that he would like to have an engagement ring. the way he sees it, the woman should not be the only one publicly displaying that she's "off the market" during the engagement. i really like the idea of being able to buy him a ring and even getting my own chance to propose (he's made it very clear that this should happen AFTER his chance tough, heh).
anyway, i have some questions:
1) when men wear a ring on their left hand, people assume they're married. should i have him wear his ring on his right hand while engaged, or just go with the whole idea that we both get an engagement ring to wear on the left?
2) can he wear two rings after we're married? i would hate for his engagement ring to be tossed away after the wedding ring takes its place. i am thinking it would be nice to get him a thinner ring that can be soldered to a (thinner) wedding band, but would it look strange for him to wear too thin a ring during the engagement?
i am very new to the world of men's rings, so any input would help. thanks! :)
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