Post # 1
Ladies, I am interested in your/your SO’s opinions on this. The other night my SO and I were looking at pictures of a friend’s wedding and he commented that he thought her dress was too fussy and over the top. It was pretty detailed with a sweetheart neckline, big skirt and lots of lace detail. I thought it was beautiful. Anyway, he tells me he much prefers slinky, sheath style dresses because he thinks they’re far sexier and he hopes that’s what I’ll wear one day (ha, we’re not even engaged yet!). He also said his friends think the same.
So now – I’m like, I wonder is this a general male thing or does it just happen to be his and his friends’ opinions? I love romantic, lace gowns but I do also love sheath style (Carolyn Bessette Kennedy’s dress remains my all time favourite)…. what do you think?! Do men prefer sexy and slinky over romantic and ballgown style?
Post # 2
He’ll end up loving whatever you are wearing on your wedding day even if he has a preconceived notion right now. You are more important than the dress!
Post # 3
I think that when men talk amongst themselves, their real opinions can sometimes just go with whatever someone else says. My FI refuses to even look at wedding dresses and comment online, much less critique my friends’ or family members’ wedding dresses. When the day comes, I think your own confidence will end up being the reason he loves your dress. When you feel beautiful, people see you as beautiful no matter what you’re wearing. He may have things to say now, but that day, he’ll think you’re the most beautiful bride in the world.
Post # 4
- Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base
ScarlettOHara: Ditto on Carolyn Bessette Kennedy’s dress. My Love also likes the sheath style. I think it is he favorite even though he has never said but that is the style of dress he leans towards when we have needed to dress up. He likes mermaids also.
ETA: His only request was strapless or low cut in a wedding dress. I don’t think men in general care what you wear on the wedding day as long as you are marry him.
Post # 5
Interesting…I have observed that my FI and his brother have made negative comments about mermaid gowns. I think men shy away from the extremes, either very big ballgowns or very slinky mermaids.
Post # 6
My fiancé actually volunteer his request on my wedding dress as soon as we were talking about engagement. He wanted strapless and that I show some cleavage. Then I responded back asking him if he wants everyone to see my cleavage? He was thinking of what he wanted me to wear for him as if we are the only two people on earth (…His perspective changed after that thought and now prefers I don’t expose too much at the wedding and saving the real sexy for the honeymoon.
Post # 7
- Wedding: February 2015 - Mount Hermon
ScarlettOHara: My fiance won’t give any opinions at all because he’s terrified he’ll diss something that’s on my dress and he doesn’t want to make me second guess my choice.
Post # 8
ScarlettOHara: I’m going to go out on a limb and say that most guys don’t sit around discussing wedding gowns. I do think that guys like sexy, but the definition of that is subjective. My husband refuses to give me input about what kind of dress I should get for vow renewal. “Cheap” is all he cares about, so Im getting what I like.
Post # 9
Oh man, I told FI that I wanted a high-low gown & his response was pretty awful. I’m a shoe girl, and so I wanted to have a kick-butt pair of shoes to show off. Now, I know what you are feeling – you doubt whether or not to buy that kind of dress because you know that no matter what he SAYS, in the back of your mind, you are thinking of what he SAID. Completely ruind for me :'(
Post # 10
My husband said “no poofy dresses!” However, I picked one with lots of poof and he LOVED it. He said it was the best dress I could have picked. He meant it, too.
Post # 11
My fiance seems to have 158912895615 opinions on all types of dresses. It seems he pretty much likes nothing lol so I’m crossing my fingers and hoping for the best with my dress.
Post # 12
ScarlettOHara: when I asked my husband he liked this the most:
Mine likes simple for the most part. Not a fan of mermaid/fit&flare, strapless, etc. I got a fit&flare strapless. Haha. Men don’t know what they like 🙂
Post # 13
My FIs opinion completely changed what I was looking for and I think I might have picked my dress based on what he wanted more than what I did.
I originally thought I would get a strapless lace poofy dress but my FI saw them and was like, that’s not what I pictured you in and I wouldn’t like it. Mostly he wouldn’t like it because I’m a small girl but big chested and anything strapless I wear would have my boobs pushed up and out of control! He actually likes the dresses with straps and illusion necklines! So I ended up buying something completely different and hopefully I love it still on the big day!
Post # 14
In my experience, when straight men are presented with pictures of women they’re not involved with (including dress models), they’re focused on what they think they should say–they might even be saying what they imagine *you* might be into, fashion-wise. Every bit of that is meaningless compared to how they feel when someone they love appears in a special outfit, like a wedding dress. I think if you polled your married male friends, they would all truthfully say they were blown away by their partners’ wedding dresses, regardless of any images they had in their heads beforehand.
Post # 15
ScarlettOHara: I was surprised by my FI actually liking or disliking some of the dresses I showed him. I figured he may all think they’re the same, but he blantatly points out what he likes and doesn’t like in a dress. I showed him the Naiomi Neoh Clementine, and that was too boring for him. Said it looked like a night gown. Then the ball gowns are too much and look heavy. He prefers the mermaid style that shows off curves and is more form fitting. I know he also prefers a v-cut neckline or a sweetheart neckline (shows the girls…. Go figure, lol). I asked for his opinion, because it’s important to me, but it won’t disuade me when I find my perfect dress. FI always says that as long as I’m happy, he’s happy. That it’s not about the dress, it’s about the marriage. But he does enjoy giving input!