Post # 1
I have been cool as a cucumber until about five minutes ago and I didn’t know who else to turn to except the hive.
I’ve posted a couple different questions on here about budget and now it’s finally blown. My original budget for catering was around $6500 and now its $10200…. oh and here’s the kicker, the wedding is NEXT SUNDAY. So if we had any chance of changing the menu or cutting cost, it’s out the window.
So basically, I had my first mental breakdown of the wedding planning and I’m at a dead end. I have absolutely no money to contribute and that’s part of the reason I’m so upset. My fiance and my mother have carried the whole wedding and now I’ve asked them for extra thousands of dollars………..
Post # 3
I’m so sorry.
Why did the price go up SO drastically? That’s almost 4k more…….
Post # 4
I’m so sorry. I also am wondering why there are such a difference in the price?
Post # 5
Well, in my haste to vent, our catering company is also doing our bar, linens, silverware, plates, glasses and appetizers. So basically, they ARE the entire budget. Our location, DJ, coordinator/florist, and gown were basically the only other things out of that budget. My fiance is paying for the photographer and I’m paying for a couple small things…. basically the breakdown was SUPPOSED to look like this only now the food and service is $8300 not $6000:
Reception Venue & Rentals
Food & Service
$6,000.00 (80 x $75.00) —- now $8300 (120X$75) (GIVE OR TAKE)
The Gown & Alterations
Invitations & Reply Cards
$295.00 (80 x $3.69)
$150.00 (80 x $1.88)
Post # 6
I am confused. You originally had 80 guests and then now you have 120. That’s an additional 40 guests. How did you not figure your $6K quote would not be increased for the additional guests? Your original quote was for 80 guests, not 120.
Post # 7
Yeah, if you add 40 more people, obviously the price will go up…
Post # 8
Yeah that’s the problem with adding more guests. Did someone push you to add more guests? If so, maybe they should help pay the difference for those guests.
Post # 9
I knew that adding those guests would make the price go up… that’s not my problem, I’m venting about where the money is coming from. I feel super guilty because now my Fi and mom have to come up with the difference and I can’t contribute. It doesn’t help that my other family members are having a tough time and here I am asking for 4000 extra dollars. How can I not feel guilty about that? It’s hard for me to enjoy the process of planning when everytime I turn around, it seems like someone elses money is being spent for my benefit.
We’ve spent a years worth of college education on my wedding. We’ve spent the cost of my car…. I just keep thinking these things. That’s my main point of vent… that were spent out. Were at the end of our rope. We all knew that the price would go up but I guess we all figured we’d have time to figure it out… well times up. Here we are. The wedding is next sunday. We LITERALLY can’t do anything about it now.
Post # 10
@MissAsB — Our guest list was out of hand when we started. I guess we fudged up when we predicted that when we sent out 200 invitations to our destination wedding (6 hour drive away) that only 1/3 would show up… So we guessed 80. That seemed like a reasonable number… well I guess everyone heard about our damn good party!! Hahaha. It’s all family, we can’t turn them away, and all I can do is try to think of options. At this point, I’ll just have to pay my mom back… somehow…
Post # 11
I’m sorry but the person paying for the wedding must’ve been told that more people would be added and the price would go up. If they were in the know, they are aware of the price increase and are prepared to pay for it. If you didn’t tell the person who is paying for the wedding, then that’s a real shame. If the person paying was aware of the additional guests, then they must’ve been willing to pay for the extra costs.
I am confused as to why you’re so upset. If the people paying for the wedding didn’t want the money being spent that way, then they should’ve spoken up a long time ago.
If nobody is complaining about the extra costs, why are you so concerned? Are people giving you a hard time about it? If not, why even sweat it?
If the cost of the wedding (equivalent to a car and a year of college education) were such a concern, why weren’t things nipped in the bud a long time ago?
Post # 12
Lots of people go into debt for there weddings. Some people spend like $80.000 on a wedding. My parents are payting for $5000 of our wedding so we have to pay the additional $5000 or so. Luckally, we have both been working for a few years and have money saved.
Post # 13
I don’t get why you’d invite 200 guests if you only wanted 80 to show?? That seems like a lot that you banked on to not show. Yikes! Well, I hope you have a great day and loads of fun!
Post # 14
I understand how you feel….we sent out more invitations than we can afford but with the size of our family and how our relationships are, we just had to do it. Our wedding is at least a 3 hour drive for every one and many will have to fly from out of state so I am crossing my fingers that we have a lot of “no” rsvp’s. I wish I had something brilliant to tell you because then I could take my own advice…but I don’t. I just want you to know that I understand what you are feeling and it definitely takes away from some of the excitement. My FI and my parents are paying for everything too and I know it is a toll on my parents but there isn’t much I can do about it.
Post # 15
My family was aware that the cost would go up, and she’s willing to pay and we will pay her back for what were over since we all knew… even though she’s willing, she has the amazing ability of making me feel bad and guilty even though she knew. I don’t know how to express to you guys the way she is…. my sisters wedding was a year ago and all my mom talks about is how she “couldn’t enjoy herself because all she saw was dollars and cents” but then turns around and tries to tell me we’ll take care of it…….um, OK now that I feel HORRIBLE.
The thing I’m so upset about is the fact that I can’t help. People are talking money all around me and I have nothing to give to my own wedding. I’m aware that we invited more people, my Fi and my mom are aware of that, we are aware that the price was going to go up. I guess for me it’s all bad timing, I’m at the end of my rope and this was the one thing that put me over the edge. I guess I held everything in until the last minute.
Post # 16
Take a deep breath. Relax. Enjoy your wedding. All will be ok. Even if it takes a bit to get over, if you can step back and enjoy the day, it will be worth it. Good luck! I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, but hopefully things will all work out in the end.