- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
Sorry, this post may be long, I’m not really sure what I am looking for, just maybe looking for people that are going through this/ or have gone through this and some insight.
Two weeks ago my SIL left her husband, three biological children, and step daughter. She moved out with a friend, sighting various reasons. Yesterday Darling Husband and I went to visit her in her new home. Right as we arrive she starts talking about how she died and was possessed by a spirit when she was 7 or 17, and a few weeks ago finally released this spirit and was re-born, or reclaimed her life. All the drastic life changes she made afterwords were due to the releasing of the spirit. DH is doing the best to support her during this time, as well as other members of her family.
This has brought up a very uncertain and painful subject of mental illness in his family. Of his three sisters, two are diagnossed biopolar. Both take meds. One has been able to maintain a perfectly normal life, the other had a major breakdown due to stress and lost her grip and footing on reality. On top of that his father had a similar type of breakdown before getting married and having children. He has never been medicated, and has been able to keep some footing in reality. He dealt with this while Darling Husband was growing up, but shielded it from him and his daughters.
Now his third sister is dealing with a similar breakdown. One positive thing is that she has a firm grasp of reality, and is trying to maintain a relationship with her children. She is living with someone who will offer her support.
Darling Husband is worried now that he will someday have similar problems. He has avoided drugs all his life because of the mental illness in his family. He feels that he is past the ages (mid to late 20’s) that mental breakdowns can be triggered? We talked about it last night and although he does not want to be medicated, he would in certain situations. He would also be more than open to going to therepy. (This is something that his father or sisters have not done/ or are willing to do).
I am concerned for this, as now most of his immediate family has some sort of major mental issue. I also have some history of Biopolar in my family (though not nearly as common). I am worried for our future children. (We are not currently TTC, and probably wouldn’t be for at least a year or two). What is the likely hood that they will have mental issues? Is creating the ‘right’ kind of environment for them going to be enough? Is there something else that we can do early on to work toward prevention or early diagnosses? I feel like we are helpless, just waiting for a mental break to happen. I don’t want to live this way, and not having children is not an option for me.
Is anyone else out there dealing with these same problems? How do you/ did you handle it? Are there any steps you put into place in order that your children will be able to avoid mental illnesses? Have you found any resources for support? Also, thank you for getting through this.