(Closed) Mentioning Jesus in a Jewish/Christian wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: Can we have this in our Interfaith wedding?
    Of course! Its Jewish AND Christian! You would be crazy to leave that part out! : (3 votes)
    19 %
    Heck no! This is about BOTH of you. Not just your side. : (10 votes)
    63 %
    Yeah, I guess... I don't see why you would want that passage though. : (0 votes)
    Other (Please explain!!!) : (3 votes)
    19 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

    I’d talk with him about it. It really depends on how comfortable he would be with it and how strong his Jewish faith is. If it was my wedding, I would probably tell my partner no, but that’s just me. ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m not Jewish, but I’m definitely not Christian; I’d be uncomfortable with any bible readings. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 4
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    2154 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    This idea may be offensive to you depending on the nature of your faith, and the person conducting the ceremony, but it’s possible to easily edit the passage, omitting the references to Jesus/God’s son, but retaining the main message about love, God, and faith.

    Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love. By this the love of God was manifested in us, that we might live through Him. In this is love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another. No one has seen God at any time; if we love one another, God abides in us, and His love is perfected in us. By this we know that we abide in Him and He in us, because He has given us of His Spirit. We have come to know and have believed the love which God has for us God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him. By this, love is perfected with us, so that we may have confidence in the day of judgment; because as He is, so also are we in this world. There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves punishment, and the one who fears is not perfected in love. We love, because He first loved us. 

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2008

    It really depends on your fiance’s religious views (as well as your own). I’m not religious, but my husband is Christian. I was really against having any religious readings in our ceremony. Your husband may feel the same way about Jesus- but I’m sure there is a compromise to be made. You both chose to marry someone outside your religious beliefs so I’m sure you’ll come up with something acceptable to the both of you.

    @Beluga: I really like this idea.

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I personally think you should have it as it is or not at all, I definitely think this is between you and your OH, but editing the Bible probably isn’t the best idea as some might be offended =)

    Post # 8
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @Mrs Hedgehog:

    I totally understand! ๐Ÿ™‚ Why don’t you talk to your partner. I think he might understand too!

    Post # 9
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    937 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I had an interfaith Christian/Jewish wedding, too. I avoided references to Jesus because I thought that it would make my guests uncomfortable. However, there were aspects of traditional Jewish ceremonies which we also omitted from our ceremony.  My hubs and I were heavily involved in creating our own ceremony, and had many, many discussions about what we were/weren’t comfortable with and what did/didn’t represent “us.” If it’s important to you to have Jesus in the ceremony, then I think you should definitely bring it up to your FI and/or your officiants for discussion. Keep in mind that you won’t be able to please everyone, and assuming most of your family and friends know you are having an Interfaith wedding- they will likely understand that it will be just that- INTERfaith, representing BOTH of you. A great book that we used to help us create our Interfaith ceremony was “Celebrating Interfaith Marriages: Creating your Jewish/Christian Ceremony” by Rabbi Devon Lerner. I got it on Amazon for like 12 bucks, and cannot recommend it highly enough.

    Post # 11
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I agree with you that the tone of the book tends to lean towards the author. Since it is a book written by a Rabbi, it obviously doesn’t have references to Jesus, however, it was VERY helpful in helping us pull elements from each religion, as well as providing templates to help us with the order of the ceremony and how it should flow. We had both been to Christian weddings and Jewish weddings, but ours was the first Interfaith wedding we had ever attended and we wanted it to be a reflection of us. Planning an Interfaith ceremony is not easy, and even with the help of officiants- obviously they are looking at it from their own religious perspective.  It was certainly a collaborative effort. In the end, our ceremony was really beautiful, and many people told us it was the best wedding they had ever been to. 

    ETA: I did carry my deceased Nana’s rosary around my bouquet. She was extremely religious and I thought it was a lovely way to honor her and keep Christ with me.  

    Post # 14
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    937 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Well, then there you have it! Your wedding is gonna be beautiful, no worries. Defintely check out the book, though. It’s a short, easy read that might give you some really great ideas. Learning curve begone! ๐Ÿ™‚

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