(Closed) Mentioning the unmentionable – pre-wedding jitters?

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I’d say it’s probably just stress. I would try to schedule some alone, relaxing time sometime in the next week. Just a couple hours when you don’t have to deal with anyone or anything wedding related.

Post # 4
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820 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I’d say your hypothesis is right because I am BEYOND stressed, VERY frustrated with my parents, annoyed with my MOH who is also my sister and has zero interest in the wedding whatsoever and I would ove to un-MOH her, I have SO MUCH TO DO, etc etc. I find myself getting extremely irritable and frustrated with my parents and my fi. I just came home to my hometown so fi is a few hours away and I’m not seeing him til the wedding and being apart from him and handling all this stress by myself is making me frustrated too. I keep getting mad at him for getting off easy and not having to do anything since he’s so far away. Even though I know I’m doing the right thing and he is going to make a wonderful father and husband, and I am thrilled most of the time, I have also been finding myself comparing him to ex’s or friends or whatever, just thinking more about how holy crap this is forever! and how my single days are over, evne though they’ve really been over since i started dating him 5 years ago. this is him, this is it, this is permanent!! and since i’m already so stressed, that thought is scary when it never was before. So, I have to say, it’s totally normal. so take a deep breath and a bath in some epsom salt… that’s what i’m going to be trying to do more of 🙂 we’ll be ok! it will all get done and then AMEN, the wedding will be over and real life can start again! good luck! 

Post # 5
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1246 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yup. Totally normal. I spent the whole week before my wedding apolozing to people for snapping at them, but I couldn’t help it: The stress was ridiculous.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I was totally stressed about my wedding and very snappish as well — like you, I was upset that I was basically doing it all on my own. I couldn’t believe that we planned to have our wedding during what turned out to be a busy time for my then-FI at work. I held that against him. I was so nervous about the wedding, but never about our upcoming marriage. I settled down some the day before once I was with other family and friends and everything was settling down, but I was still so nervous during the ceremony that I didn’t read the last line of my vows.

Do what you can to chill out and don’t get stressed about the jitters! Sounds like your stress is compounding itself.

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