Post # 1
The wedding is a week away and to say I am stressed is an understatement. I have posted before about the lack of help, the lack of enthusiasm and the extreme amount of work that must be accomplished with the wedding, home and work. I am beyond disappointed with my BMs and not even the good advice from the bees helped with that. I am tired – physically + emotionally and even more tired of all this money I am spending on this wedding and pig roast. Every time I think I got it all covered, something else must be purchased or taken care of.
Today I was finding myself annoyed with FI, even to the point of comparing him with men from other failed relationships. He didn’t do anything specifically wrong but I realized I am unhappy that he doesn’t help around the house more. Suddenly it seems like everything is on me and I am angry.
My hypothesis is that this is a classic case of pre-wedding jitters and hopefully at some point I will feel the joy that should be felt getting wed. Has anyone else had a case of the pre-wedding jitters?
Post # 3
I’d say it’s probably just stress. I would try to schedule some alone, relaxing time sometime in the next week. Just a couple hours when you don’t have to deal with anyone or anything wedding related.
Post # 4
I’d say your hypothesis is right because I am BEYOND stressed, VERY frustrated with my parents, annoyed with my MOH who is also my sister and has zero interest in the wedding whatsoever and I would ove to un-MOH her, I have SO MUCH TO DO, etc etc. I find myself getting extremely irritable and frustrated with my parents and my fi. I just came home to my hometown so fi is a few hours away and I’m not seeing him til the wedding and being apart from him and handling all this stress by myself is making me frustrated too. I keep getting mad at him for getting off easy and not having to do anything since he’s so far away. Even though I know I’m doing the right thing and he is going to make a wonderful father and husband, and I am thrilled most of the time, I have also been finding myself comparing him to ex’s or friends or whatever, just thinking more about how holy crap this is forever! and how my single days are over, evne though they’ve really been over since i started dating him 5 years ago. this is him, this is it, this is permanent!! and since i’m already so stressed, that thought is scary when it never was before. So, I have to say, it’s totally normal. so take a deep breath and a bath in some epsom salt… that’s what i’m going to be trying to do more of 🙂 we’ll be ok! it will all get done and then AMEN, the wedding will be over and real life can start again! good luck!
Post # 5
Yup. Totally normal. I spent the whole week before my wedding apolozing to people for snapping at them, but I couldn’t help it: The stress was ridiculous.
Post # 6
I was totally stressed about my wedding and very snappish as well — like you, I was upset that I was basically doing it all on my own. I couldn’t believe that we planned to have our wedding during what turned out to be a busy time for my then-FI at work. I held that against him. I was so nervous about the wedding, but never about our upcoming marriage. I settled down some the day before once I was with other family and friends and everything was settling down, but I was still so nervous during the ceremony that I didn’t read the last line of my vows.
Do what you can to chill out and don’t get stressed about the jitters! Sounds like your stress is compounding itself.
Post # 7
Thanks bees! Good to know this is normal. It’s just I was so sure until yesterday and I am shocked that I am getting nervous about getting married. So much for my “simple little garden wedding”. Even though we are not doing the whole 9 yards, it hasn been far more work than I ever anticipated and I have also been disappointed because I thought I would get at least a little help!