Post # 1
Having a ‘discussion’ with h2b about our reception menu. I’m from Australia where the most common thing to do is pick two or three items for each course (eg. chicken, beef) and have the wait staff serve these alternatively at each setting. So no guests technically have a choice, though it is accepted that you can freely swap with your neighbour if you wish.
H2b is not Australian and has never heard of such a thing. We’re getting married in South Africa and our guests will be predominately South African, with some Aussies and some European.
I’ve always assumed that alternate drop would be the way to go for us, it’s definitely the least admin and where I’m from it’s totally acceptable, but maybe our guests will think it’s odd and be uncomfortable swapping food with other people?
We’re now at 6 weeks out and it’s getting a bit late to go and ask people to select their preferred option… What are your thoughts???
Post # 3
Maybe your guests will just learn how things are done in another place and will benefit from having broader horizons.
Traditionally, the bride’s culture determines the formality, format, etc. of the wedding and reception. And it’s good for people to have new experiences.
Post # 4
While I’m all for learning about other cultures and doing things the way they are done wherever I am, I would not enjoy this “tradition.” Most people would probably only feel comfortable switching plates with their SO who is sitting next to them. But that would only work if each person wanted a different dish. I know that neither Darling Husband or I would want red meat. So if one of us got chicken and one got beef, would we just share the chicken if no one else at the table was willing to swap with us, (or if we didn’t feel comfortable asking)?
Why not just have the waitstaff ask each person on the spot what their preference is? I’ve seen a lot of weddings do that. The only caveat is the caterer has to prepar extras of each dish, (and determine which would probably be most popular).
Post # 5
I’ve never heard of it, but it sounds kind of cool! The last wedding I went to we picked out meals on the RSVP, but FI’s and mine got messed up so we just switched. As long as the guests understnad what’s going on it should work out great!
Post # 6
I think this sounds like a cool tradition but it’s definately not something I’ve ever heard of or seen before. It would definately take some explanation, like on a menu card. And I agree with the PP that it would only work if everyone at the table knew each other really well and would feel comfortable swapping. Some weddings I’ve know everyone at my table since college and it would work. Others I don’t know people so well and I wouldn’t be comfortable asking people to switch, even if it meant me not eating much or not liking what I’m eating. Also, are you going to have a vegetarian option?
Have you looking into serving family style? This should be just as easy as your option, but then people could pick and choose what they want. Just something to consider.
Post # 7
I have done a couple weddings that were “Family” style the caterer placed dishes with the “Sides” in them (potato’s, veggie, ect ) then the wait staff brings your choice of meat already plated to the table. This cuts down on some who feel the need to eat a weeks worth of meat at your wedding. 🙂
I too would feel uncomfortable switching plates with someone I didn’t know. I could see this at a shower or something but not a formal wedding. And knowing a few Britt’s I can’t see them ever asking LOL
Post # 8
That is how it was done at a professionals conference I want to. I think it sounds neat, more people need to experience different ways of doing this in my opinion =].
I would suggest you find out things like are there vegetarians.
Post # 9
@NaraG: How big is your wedding? At some of the smaller weddings (<100 people) that I’ve been to guests made their choice on the day. Waiters would just take orders as starters were being served. Then the speeches would take place before mains were served giving the kitchen enough time to prepare.
Post # 10
I am in Perth and have never once had an alternate drop dinner before. I have heard of it for corporate events, but never for a wedding… personally I really dislike the idea. What if no one wants to swap and you get stuck with something you dont like? But if you think it will work for your guests then by all means do it 🙂
At ours we have two choices of each course and our guests get to choose their options on the night. Is this not something your caterer can offer you?
Post # 11
Melbourne here and I haven’t been to a wedding with alt drop. Pretty much everywhere we researched had it though and when I mentioned it, nobody was fazed. We ended up with our venue that we choose the two mains. On the night the guests choose. They have vegetarian options and will cook to any dietary needs. Maybe you could look into that? 🙂
Post # 12
I’m Aussie – I’ve been to a couple of weddings that were alt drop, and the others were serve-yourself buffet. The idea of “ordering” your meal at RSVP (as seems to be the norm in the US) was totally foreign to me when I started visiting wedding boards.
Post # 13
I’m Aussie. We have to choose 3 choices, the guests can then pick out of the 3, not an alternative drop.
We are having the reception at a stylish pub/hotel which has an adjoining vineyard. Nestled in the wine region. I can’t wait! The food is amazing!
Post # 14
I would be one hungry vegetarian.
Post # 15
I’ve never heard of this, and personally it would make me feel a bit uncomfortable. I like selecting the food that I want, not having to trade with the people seated around me.
Post # 16
It wouldn’t bother me either way.