Messy situation with Grooms family- long

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1340 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

This doesn’t sound like it’s much about you. If she asks you if she’s invited, just say no. Whatever. Eventually she’ll move into her own house and likely fade away.

Post # 4
3222 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@nomdeplume1:  she needs to get over it. Why is your FI’s family supporting someone that is being abusive to EN? She needs to get counselling, and everyone needs to cut ties.

To not exacerbate the problem, deliver your invite personally and privately. She cannot be such a tyrant that she would refuse to give family members some time alone. You also need to talk to your FI about how the two of you will handle her behaviour as a unit so you don’t look like the bad guy. There is no shame in honesty and gently letting her know that due to the current situation, she is not invited to the wedding. Be upfront and firm.

Post # 5
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

The less attention you give her, the faster she will go away.  Every time she lashes out at EN and he responds, she knows she is winning the “war.”  EN needs to stop communicating with her too and be glad he passed on that crazy woman.  If EN has any balls he will also sit the family down and let them know that the relationship with GF is over and as soon as she moves into her own place he feels it would be inappropriate for the family to continue contact with her.  This is especially important for the next girl he dates because it sounds like crazy Ex-GF will find out through family and harass EN even more.

Post # 6
2311 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t see why this is such a big issue? Just ignore her and her tactics COMPLETELY and move on with your wedding plans as desired. You guys should stay with he brother since you are REAL FAMILY. I am not sure why she is there.

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