Post # 1
Wedding websites seem to be quite popular these days, and I find that a lot of them have a cute “How we met”/”Our story” page with cutesy stories. But…what if a couple doesn’t have a cutesy story because they met online (on a dating site, I mean, as opposed to a forum/game/etc.)? It was deliberate, it didn’t happen by chance, it wasn’t really kismet – you both didn’t want to be single anymore so you used a site. You clicked, it worked out, end of story. What would you say then? Or would you avoid that part entirely*?
Also, for those of you who met on a dating site, have you told people? If yes, who? Was it mentioned at your wedding and how?
*I have a friend who met her ex online and whenever anyone asked her how they met, she told them that they met at a diner, which is where they had their first date and technically not a lie. I’m not sure how I feel about that. :/
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@Pisces: Skip it. We did a wedding website but we skipped posting our How We Met story because it was in a bar and as a result the story is slightly inappropriate for older family members.
Post # 4
On our website, we avoided the How We Met part entirely. No one ever questions it.
People know we met online, but overall we’ve kept the story vague only because the stuff that happened AFTER we met was KEY to leading us to love and of much more importance than our actual first meeting.
Post # 5
FI and I met through OkCupid and we’re very open about it when people ask us. I know plenty of engaged/married couples who have met online and I think it’s becoming a lot easier to talk about than before. On our wedding website bio, I wrote “We met through a mutual friend of ours – the Internet”. It suits us well because we both work in software and are around computers constantly.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2014 - Banff, Alberta
I would focus on how you felt about eachother rather than the actual circumstance.
Post # 7
@beachbride1216: LOL! This kind of reminds me of a Dan Savage column once where he got his readers to send in their most inappropriate How We Met stories and one was from a gay Canadian couple who met when one guy answered an online bondage ad. He was thrown into a cage upon his arrival and there was one other person already in the cage, with a bondage mask on and gag – his now husband! LMAO
ETA: Sorry for threadjacking!
Post # 8
We didn’t meet online, but we skipped that part of the website. If people are invited to your wedding, they probably know anyway! Plus I just don’t think that many people care to read it.
Post # 9
Skip it. I am skipping that part on our website. We don’t have a cute romantic story to tell. It was my birthday, we knew each other before but on a fairly casual basis (we hung out at the same bar a lot), we got drunk, one thing led to another…..my family knows how we met so that’s not my concern. I just don’t need strangers reading all about my personal business. Or I could put a booty call that has lasted 6 yrs lol
Post # 10
My cousin met her FI online and they aren’t ashamed to tell people that, it’s very common in these times!
As far as a wedding website, I’d focus on the first date instead of how they met. Instead of “X and X met when they were in college” I’d say “X and X had their first date at X and it was amazing and things took off from there”
Post # 11
FI and I met through OKCupid. We were up front with everyone from the beginning, and even older people, who you’d expect to think it’s taboo, are really okay with it.
Our text is:
“One Friday night, BEE was sitting bored on the couch. She’d had an OKCupid account for some time, but hadn’t met anyone interesting. On a whim, she created a new account. One of the first matches she received was FI. She typed up a pretty lengthy email about what she liked on his profile, and hit send. A few minutes later, she got an message back. Coincidentally, they had messaged each other at the same time. FI was very sick with a cold at the time and they only ended up messaging each other once a day either because of the illness or because he edited his messages multiple times before sending….”
Then it goes on to describe our first date, which in my opinion was pretty fantastic.
Post # 12
@Pisces: One of my friends met my FI online, went on a date with him, and then they decided not to go on another (long story). Then, she decided to set me up with him a month or two later. To me, that’s kind of a weird “how we met” story.
I decided to fill out that part of our wedding website, but just talked about our first date and that my friend introduced us.
Post # 13
@Pisces: I think the summary you gave was actually really cute. Intentional love – sought it, found it and BOOM! We’s gettin’ married!
I met my fiancee on Facebook and we love telling that story because we lived 4 stop lights (6 blocks away) from one another and I hadnt seen or heard of her before. Regardless of the “typical” way you and your fiancee met, your love story is unique and special to and for you both and I feel it should be celebrated!
Post # 14
- Wedding: October 2013 - Tybee Island, GA
I skipped it.
He was my ex best friends boyfriend back in high school…
While i didnt start dating him until 2 years after they broke up; that’s how we met. At my junior prom… he was her date and we all went together! hahaha
so its awkward when people ask because it makes us look bad, “Oh she was my ex girlfriends best friend…” or “He was my best friend’s boyfriend.” haha. Even though it was back in high school they dated… Yet; i havent talked to her since senior year (before me and my FI started dating) and she herself is engaged now… its still awkward. But i skip it. LOL
Post # 15
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
FI and I met online and I wrote about it on our website.
I know this is long, it is meant to be cute, be kind! LOL. Our friends and family seemed to love it, which is all that matters. A lot of people have asked us how we met so we decided to just share it.
Mr. Purple & Ms. Purple met online in March 2012 on DatingSiteName. Mr. Purple had joined many months before Ms. Purple did and patiently waited for her to sense that she should sign up so he could meet her.
Ms. Purple joined the site in March 2012 and while searching through profiles never came across Mr. Purple’s profile once. Thankfully Mr. Purple came across her profile and apparently liking what he saw sent Ms. Purple a message. At this point Ms. Purple had not yet paid the monthly fee which would allow her to read messages. So when she saw she had message from Mr. Purple she read his profile to decide whether or not this guy seemed worth the $30 fee it would cost her to actually read his message. According to Ms. Purple while everything about Mr. Purple’s profile was appealing to her, what sold her was his sense of humor which she fell for upon reading Mr. Purple’s response to the profile question “How have you gotten to where you are today?” to which Mr. Purple had simply responded “Very Carefully”. It was after reading this that Ms. Purple paid her $30 fee and messaged Mr. Purple back…
Her first message to Mr. Purple was a simple hello but also stated that she was out of town for the weekend visiting family and wouldn’t be able to access the internet much until the following week. Mr. Purple figured this was her way of blowing him off and never expected to hear from Ms. Purple ever again. So it was to his surprise that she did in fact message him again when she returned home after the weekend away. They e-mailed a few times and after a few IMs Mr. Purple asked for her number so they could talk on the phone. Their first two phone conversations lasted about three hours each which seemed kind of promising. At the end of their second phone conversation Mr. Purple asked Ms. Purple out that weekend on St. Patrick’s Day to walk around downtown Madison and out to Picnic Point.
Ms. Purple immediately went shopping for a new outfit and thankfully decided on very comfortable shoes. For those of you who don’t know, many are likely to picture a mid March day in Wisconsin to somewhat resemble the North Pole, 2012 was unseasonably warm and the couple was lucky to enjoy a day of 80 degree temperatures!
Their first date lasted about 10 hours and they walked about 8 miles around Madison! Needless to say they “clicked” and the rest is history.
Post # 16
My SO and I haven’t hidden that we met online from anyone, but I don’t anticipate we would include a “How We Met” section. When people ask how we met, we just say, “We met online and had our first date at XYZ.” It seems to satisfy their curiousity. But for wedding site purposes, I don’t think the “how we met” is as interesting as the “why we’re together.” You meet once (usually). How you spend the rest of your time together and why you stay together is the ‘meat and potatoes’ of your relationship. It’s the good stuff. Those are the things I’d rather spend time talking about.