Post # 1
Our ceremony is at 3pm, but my MIL said we should put 2:30 on the invite so people won’t be late. My mom agreed we should, but my dad said we shouldn’t. I for one am always late to family functions (unless it’s something really important like my wedding!) and plenty of my family and his is too. I’ve been to some weddings where they wrote an earlier time on the invitation; sometimes I was annoyed (if I was on time) and sometimes I was grateful (if I was late). The only thing is, I already wrote 3pm on the Save the Date that I emailed, not sure if people will remember. Is it too late for the 2:30 trick?
Anyone else out there whose family runs on Mexican time? Will/did you put the real time or an earlier time on the invitation?
Post # 3
Hey I’m Mexican and if you have familia like mine and my extended extended familia if you write 3pm the actual time the ceremony will begin your guest will be late. In my mexican’s mine when I see 3pm it means I can arrive at 4 or 4:30 and trust me when we do fiestas I tend to write on the invitations an hour early time so that people get there it works sometimes it doesn’t.
However, if you write 3pm you will have guest interrupting your ceremony walking in behind you or on the sides and the photographer capturing them in your walk down the aisle. 2:30 is risking it however if you feel its right do it.
Save the dates don’t worry people go off of the actual invitation if they call just say the minister had to change his time and don’t let them know that you are doing it so they can be there on time.
Post # 4
Hmm I don’t think that’s just Mexican time… my all-American family does that too! Our church actually required us to put down our ceremony time 15 minutes ahead on our invitations.
ETA: Oh and you can still change the time on the invitations. People will probably follow the invitation time rather than the save-the-date time.
Post # 5
I put the real time on our invites but I expect everyone to be late…EXCEPT a lot of people are in our bridal party and will be there getting ready. Sooooooooo I’m going to tell them to be there at 10, and they’ll get there at 12 😉 lol
Post # 6
I did that for my cousins invitation LOL he is LATE to everything!!!
So i put 4:00 like everyone else but put a little sticky on it saying !! GET THERE ON TIME! hahaa
Post # 7
We put 5:30pm, although our ceremony would start around 6:15pm
My FI feels bad about it so we’ll have different activities (guess book signing, picture slideshow, background music) so people don’t feel like they arrived too early. . .
The way the place is set up, if people come late they will interrupt with the ceremony, so we are trying to get people there before we actually start 🙂
And don’t worry about the STD’s time, we also did the same thing, we put 6pm on them and 5:30 on the invites.
Post # 8
Thanks bees! I put a half hour early. =) I better be on time, haha!
Post # 9
I am also going to put a half hour early. I want to start exactly at 1:30pm, so I don’t want any stragglers.
Post # 10
most likely things are gonna start just a tad late already. I would definately have the invitation say earlier…even by an hour. That way everything will run smooth and people will show up on time. Worse case scenario, if people are upset tell them to get over it….or tell them your nerves go the best of you….
Post # 11
I am also plannin to include the start time a half hour early. Geesh with my family that is a must. Its a cultural thing to be late. I have read that most Mexicans arrive late to functions as a belief that it is rude to arrive early as a host may not be ready to attend the guests. I am still a bit nervous that my guests will arrive late even while inviting them a half hour early. I wonder if this has worked for anyone.
Post # 12
OMG, I have been worrying about the very same thing! SO’s family does not run on Mexi time (considering they’re all white), but my whole family does. I’m not happy about the idea of anyone coming in mid-ceremony.
Post # 13
I know we lied the day of my quinceañera we put that the mass began at 11am but in reality it didn’t start until 11:30am and it worked out perfectly
Post # 14
We’re saying 3 PM, but we’re planning to start at 3:30! I figured a lot of people will be late, too. It’s not just my Latino fiance’s family, but my white family can’t get anywhere on time either! LOL
Post # 15
Good thought! I think we will have to do the same. My fiance’s friends and family are always late, lol.