Post # 1
I’m considering doing a destination wedding in Mexico…with only 5 months notice to guests! (Aka, make the call by Jan 15th, wedding May 15th). is that insane?
For brides who’ve planned an all inclusive resort type of wedding, is 5 months enough time? I know there isn’t much planning to do, but I have no idea when the hotel expects you to book.
Post # 3
@cbgg: i guess it really depends on your guests. you have to consider their schedules, family commitments, jobs, vacation time and budget.
as for the booking part, how many guests would you be expecting? you may want to choose a larger resort to ensure enough space for all of your guests. which resort are you looking at?
Post # 4
@mypinkshoes: I’m primarily looking at Peurto Vallarta and am thinking of a resort along the lines of a Dreams or a Riu.
In terms of guests, the game plan is to check with our must-be-there people and make sure they can make it. But I’m just worried that friends (my must-be-theres are all family) wont be able to come…gah, I have absolute analysis peralysis!
Post # 5
@cbgg: those are great resorts. i would discuss it asap with those must-have individuals before solidifying your dw.
this is the reason we did not have a dw. there were too many people that i would really want with me and i know that financially and scheduling, they would not be able to come.
Post # 6
It really depends on work, commitments and overall affording it. Why dont you just take your family to the destination wedding and do a celebration when you get home for your friends? If I was invited to a destination wedding and couldnt make it id enjoy going to a celebration for the couple later. I know not everyone loves that idea though.
Post # 7
How many people are you thinking about inviting? Also does the resport do most of the work or do you have to find vendors? We had a DW in St Thomas and it took me about 8 months to get it all put together and that was for only 22 people. The hardest part was the slow response that I had from the resort. Everyone in St Thomas was on “island time” and slow as heck to respond to things.
Post # 8
I put 5mos wasn’t enough time. My niece got married in Jamaica a few years ago. She actually won the event and her trip was free. The entire thing including airfair was about $1200.00 per person. I probably could have done in it in 5mos, but with loans, car payment, having to bring two people on my dime, and trying to save right after the holidays, the 5mos would have been really tough.
Have you tried working with a travel agent? They usually know all the ins/outs of places and can sometimes get you deals you don’t even know about.
Post # 9
I don’t think 5 months is enough time. Have you even checked with the resorst you’re talking about. Popular resorts can book up fast. I booked my DW over a year in advance and still didn’t get the date I originally wanted.
And in terms of 5 months notice for your guests, it really depends on your guests. 5 months isn’t that much time to save up for an unexpected vacation. So it really depends on their financial status, time they have alloted for vacation, other commitments, etc. You can certainly try by asking your “key” people and getting in touch with the resort ASAP to see if its even a real possibiliyt.
Post # 10
@cbgg: We planned and gave our guests notice about 9 months before the wedding and all guests booked 7 to 8 months before the wedding date. We also have a few people that will come last minute as they aer not able to let us know that early if they can come. I guess it does depend on your guests and if they will be able to take vacation off or pay the amount of money in that time period. We have friends that want to come to our wedding in May then think about having their destination wedding in October of the same year so thats 5 months also.
Post # 11
We are planning a DW in Cancun with a 7 month engagment. Our Save the Dates (with website for travel info) went out with about 6 months to go and our invites will go out by Jan 7 for a May 27 wedding.
We checked with all the important guests first, and we see everyone else as a happy bonus to our event. We’ve gotten very little push back and have made it clear that we understand it’s asking a lot and no hard feelings if they can’t make it. I think that is key to managing peoples’ attitudes.
We also are working with a travel agent who can provide rates and deal with deposits. Our guests can put down 0-150 right now depending on if they book the flight or just hotel, and the rest is due at 30 days to the wedding.
Many of our guests would have had to travel anyway and several have pointed out it would have cost them almost as much to come to Texas. They’d rather spend a few hundred more and be in Mexico.
We invited 275. So far I think we have 26 with a confirmed deposit down and expect 50-75 to attend.
Post # 12
And I just thought about it – Jan to May is only 4 months….darn it all!
The frustrating thing is that I’d love to do it in the fall – that would be enough notice and wouldn’t feel so rushed. It would work better for most of my group….except for all of my must-be-theres! (All of my cousings are in university and can’t take a week off mid semester). Boo-urns.
If only my darn fiance had proposed back in the summer like he was supposed to! Ha ha! I’ll remind myself not to be bitter…this is the definition of a first world problem.
At the end of the day it’s going to come down to this: if all of my must-be-theres are in, are we ok with having very few other attendees? This is the question we’ll have to answer.
Post # 13
@PuntaCanaBride: I have not and don’t know if it’s realistic from the resort’s perspective. They are huge resorts so I’d figure they can accommodate, but I really have no idea. I plan to contact them in the next few days to feel out the possibilities.
Post # 14
Ideal? No. Do-able? Absolutely.
But I would make up your mind like ASAP! Get a travel agent (if you’re Canadian PM me because my travel agent is originally from Mexico and amazing at communicating with the resorts quickly), and go go go!
ETA: you are going to have to be a little flexible about which resort and what date within the week you’re going.
Post # 15
@cbgg: There’s plenty of time for the planning, the DW resort weddings are far easier planning wise. What you might run into is less guests being able to attend. Maybe send out an email or call up guests and ask there thoughts on the time frame.
Post # 16
What about June or july or even August(aug is less ideal as weather can be more of an issue then). June-and July are still very nice. We’re getting married in Mexico mid June(we normally visit the area that time of year as well.