Post # 1
I’m working hard to plan and pay for my wedding and now I’m having trouble with people trying to micro-manage my decisions. I feel like I’m in a constant battle with people who are trying to help but end up stressing me out more than necessary. I’m a very laid back, go with the flow bride and I’ve already been told by not close friends that my style is pissing them off. I am super excited for my wedding! However, I do not like being pushed into certain decisions like “hire my friend as this… or I will pay for it for you.” Sometimes its not about the money but its a service that frankly I’m not interested in. How can I politely suggest people back off?
Post # 3
just gotta remain firm and make decisions when they are not around. for example someone who says “book my friend” you say “thanks, i’ll think about it” they follow up with you and you say “oh thanks, but i ended booking somewhere else.” end of story.
Post # 4
Welcome to the wonderful world of weddings. I love weddings, but they bring out the best and worst in people. You just have to stick to your guns and give people a “thanks but no thanks..”
Post # 5
Agree with PPs. You can always ‘consider’ their offers, but decline to say you’ve decided what/who you’re going with. We’ve had to do this with friends/family as well, and I say I’d much prefer my guests to be guests, not having to work at my wedding (and also, a contract with a vendor is much easier to deal with if something goes wrong vs. trying to get $ back from Aunt Martha when your cake doesn’t show up).
Post # 6
thank them graciously for their suggestions and firmly tell them that you’re actually doing something else.
Time to move away from being passive and laid back, to assertive.
Post # 7
What about not doing something else but not doing it at all? I’m having a hard time turning down services that I’m not having. It’s not that I’m hiring someone else, I appreciate the offer but its something I can’t reciprocate at this point in time.