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For some reason, on my way to work this morning, I started thinking about what my middle name will be after I get married. I'm taking FI's last name but wondering if I should keep my middle name and drop my maiden name or drop my middle name and keep my middle name. I've read some posts by other bees but it seems like most people have an attachment to one name or the other. This isn't the case for me. I like my middle name. Although there isn't any family connection to it, there is a great story behind it. I also like my last name. It's a good, solid name. It's also my family name. However, I'm not particularly bothered by the thought of giving up either one. Both are names that would flow with my new last name (which, unfortunately, is not so true of my first name. My first name + my new last name = all kinds of awkward sounding, but oh well, that's a thought for another post.)

So bees, what did you guys do? Which name do you suggest that I keep?

I just went to the SS office and they allowed me to keep my birth last name, my previous marriage last name and add MM last name-   Retread Bride  Birth Firstmarriage second marriage-  go figure

I'm having this problem too. My first name and my new last name sound so goofy because they have the same sounds in them. But since my first name and middle name and maiden name all rhyme, I'm screwed no matter what I do!!!

I say keep whatever sounds best with your new last name. That way you can always toss that initial on your checks or whatever til you get used to it. For me it is my middle name.

Thanks, bees! I guess I was just making this way more complicated than it has to be. So, it looks like I'll be Dandelion Middle Name New Last Name!

:)

I've never heard of dropping your middle name when you get married...only changing your last?  At least, no one I know did it that way.  The name that I'm called is actually my first and middle names hyphenated (the only reason I have 2 seperate names is because the church wouldn't allow me to be baptized otherwise).  The first time, I kept my first and middle and switched from maiden to married.  I toyed with the notion of adding my maiden name to my middle name (Merry Jane-Maiden Married) since you never write out your full name anyway, but by the time I thought of it, it was too late and I would have to pay for a legal name change.  Hyphenating my last names was never an option because my married name was 12 letters long, and didn't fit on my drivers lisence with my first name as it was!!  My lisence has my name as K R Marriedname instead of my full first name...drives me batty.  To appease myself for changing it, I just put ALL my names on my FB profile LOL.  Is it my legal name?  No, but at least people know who the heck I am and it makes me feel good seeing them both somewhere, even if I do have the longest name ever now. 

I dropped my middle and kept my maiden name. My middle name sounded redic with my new last name - I would have had 3 names that ended in "a"

I dropped my middle and replaced it with my maiden name. I voted for "flip a coin" though, because you sound like you don't care one way or the other.