Post # 1
I am getting married on Friday. I found out today from Future Mother-In-Law that there would be some people coming from my old work (she still works there). I love these people, but we wanted to keep the event pretty small. They were not invited. I guess they just thought it was a casual event. I honestly didn’t know what to say. We were currently only planning on having enough centerpieces and tables for 80. This number may put us over. I don’t know what to do. Luckily we are catering the event ourselves, so we won’t have to worry about not having enough food. But I am freaking out a bit here. Has this ever happened to anyone else? I guess I am not really looking for advice, I just needed to vent a little bit. Grrrrr….
Post # 3
The events I’ve set up for our Non-Profit I ALWAYS have an extra table set up for those that didn’t RSVP…
We’ll be doing the same for our wedding… atleast though you don’t have to worry about running out of food! lol
Post # 4
We thought we might have about 10 people more than we originally thought (and bought centerpieces for). We decided that as damage control, we would put a slightly fancier and different centerpiece on the parents’ table since we didn’t have enough of the original. Maybe you could do that as well?
Post # 5
It takes serious gall to come to a wedding to which you were not invited. Did your FMIL invite them?
If you don’t want to “uninvite” them, then the only choice you have is to set up an extra table.
I know you didn’t ask for advice, but if it were me, I would phone one of the people I used to work with and ask them to be the intermediary and tell the other people that it’s not a good idea to go to the wedding uninvited- only of course if your Future Mother-In-Law didn’t invite them.
Post # 6
Unfortunately she did invite them. She invited them informally though with just a word of mouth kind of thing. I hate that weddings seem to be so casual in this town. I swear no one follows any sort of ettiquette. At first. I didn’t really mind too much, but I wish she would have told me so we could have planned. I actually did have extra stuff to do an extra table just in case, but it seems as if more than even that number will be coming. Ugh.
That is a good idea, jo.lee. Maybe I will do that. We originally didn’t plan to have a head table for us and parents, but that is a really good idea. Maybe I will do that!
Thanks a ton!!