(Closed) Might not make it

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Should I call it quits?
    Yes : (156 votes)
    88 %
    No : (12 votes)
    7 %
    Other (please explain below) : (9 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    866 posts
    Busy bee

    That is pretty early in the relationship to be having that many fights. I think you should be in the honeymoon stage the whole first year.

    Post # 4
    Member
    4528 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    If you doubt that you have a future, or at least a good future, it’s time to move on. And, next time, hope he’s a little more mature and doesn’t resort to name calling and ignoring

    Post # 5
    Member
    10369 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Before you stated your ages, I figured you must be late teens/early 20s. Not going to an event because someone is ignoring you instead of, you know, talking to you about it – is the type of behavior i’d expect from a very young/immature couple. I’d move on. I don’t think he is marriage/dad material.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1857 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    This all sounds really messy. And *really* messy for less than a year together.

    When you can say “these past couple months” and that basically entails a third or fourth or your relationship, that’s too much. All couples have disagreements but this is all just sounds really childish and not worth anyone’s time.

    Post # 7
    Member
    2641 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @MrsWe:  Considering you were considering proposing only last week it seems a very rash decisionbro break up with him so suddenly based on one incident. However, only youknow how you are feeling in the relationship. Your gut will tell you.

    Post # 8
    Member
    405 posts
    Helper bee

    It kinda sounds pretty immature… Grown ups don’t handle arguments with the silent treatment. It doesn’t sound healthy.

    I’d say it also sounds like you have different opinions of how a relationship should be. From what you’re saying, it sounds like you expect to pay/drive half the time, it doesn’t sound like he agrees. Money always causes trouble IMO, and it sounds like you’re in different places. Is there a chance he makes less money than you think? Or has a lot of debt? That would be my thought, that he’s not wanting to discuss finances.

    Post # 9
    Member
    3735 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    He sounds extremely immature! There is no excuse for treating somebody like that! I would seriously think about if you can live with somebody who seems incapable of handling disagreements in a mature and grown up manner. Sorry you are going through this!

    Post # 12
    Member
    3470 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    @MrsWe:  you deserve better! Maybe try to find a man closer in age to you. You know what they say… After a certain age there’s a reason a man isn’t married

    Post # 14
    Member
    7498 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    The impression I have gotten from your posts about your relationship has been that you are having to try way too hard to make things work. In fact, when you poste about possibly proposing to him, it made me really sad for you because it seemed like you were trying to save the relationship 🙁 I hope that you do what is best for you.

    Post # 15
    Member
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    It sounds like you guys aren’t really communicating well, but rather resorting to ignoring or “cheap fighting” (like him calling you spoiled and selfish, you refusing to go to an event you had planned).  That seems pretty immature for adults who are looking to have a future together. 

    In the end, you said you are not feeling it anymore so I think that’s your answer.  If you were just mad and knew you’d get over it, I don’t think you’d be having such strong feelings that he’s not right for you anymore.  I think you’d instead be pissed but want to work through it because you want to be together.  It sounds like you’ve answered your own question.

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