- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
My fiance and I are planning a destination wedding (Poland). Almost all of my family is there and the church is where my parents were married. My parents are paying for everything, and our venue holds 100 people. My fiance is very close with his mother and she is very into etiquette. We already had a huge fight over the guest list…”You cannot invite your grandmother’s one brother and not the other, even if you know one of them well and rarely see the other”. My fiance feels bad because he said he ultimately wants to make me happy and it is our day, but he would also like to accommodate his mother’s wishes a little bit too. The invitations are out (btw…70 people on his side and 48 on my side). Now my FSIL is making a big stink because we did not include her in-laws, who I have met twice, but my fiance is somewhat close with. I feel like screaming because the most important day in my life is turning into a nightmare and causing stress between my fiance and I and his mother/family. We just had dinner with his parents and it felt awkward.what to do???? Should we have not invited any of his grandmothers siblings? and should we send out an invitation to his sister’s in-laws just to be “polite”?
**Notice that the venue holds 100 but 118 have been invited..it is a horrible feeling to want a reply marked DECLINE WITH REGRET!!!**