Post # 1
This is just a whiny post since I’d like to hear from someone who has funny stories of similar, or advice, or just encouragement….
Basically MiL was evicted from her home by her HoA. It’s a long story, and I don’t really want to explain too much about it since I feel it isn’t my place, but there’s no way I’m going to let fam just get kicked out on the street. So my MiL and SiL (17 yr old) moved in to our guestroom until they can get back on their feet.
We started NTNT on our honeymoon since we wanted to do that for awhile before actively TTC.
Well, now that we have houseguests, and esp his MOM and lil sis, like 8 feet away from our door….there is NO way I can BD with hubs…..! It just freaks me out.
I feel like if they are here a few months, then we are going to have to get over it. Though I hope they get a place by end of summer…but still. Just the thought of a little sexy time freaks me out with family so close.
Anyone else been through this?
Post # 3
I can understand how you feel, but how will you feel when there is a LO nearby? Will you feel awkward then too? I say get used to being quiet now and call it practice for the future….lol
Post # 4
Desperate times call for desperate measures 😉
Eek I’m sorry! Maybe time will change your mind or you can get some quiet time if the ladies go out and about 😉
Post # 5
@StormyRose: I feel like with LO nearby (in theory at least!) it’s not as bad since you get that adjustment period where you are going at it but they don’t know what you are doing.
If there’s a whoops squeak, they will KNOW what is going on!!! LOL
**ed** I’m an only child too, and moved out at 16, so that whole “parents in the next room thing” has never been a thing for me before!
Post # 6
I’m sure they know you bd. I think it would be strange for you just to stop having sex, you just got married. How does DH feel about your choice?
Post # 7
@mwitter80: DH has the same problem. We both think they’re just too close….Not down the hall or across a hall or anything…. like just one door seperating us….I open it, and there they are! I can hear them breathe at night, not snore….
He has hinted at alone time like, “hey, why don’t you to go to a movie, our treat?” but trying to not be in your face about it since they are going through a lot.
Post # 8
@MrsDulce: We’re ttc too so sometimes it needs to be done at inopportune times. We used to never do it when we visited our parents but now…if I’m fertile, game on. We’ve been known to move it to the floor if we’re really concerned about being heard.
That said,I they’re in your territory so perhaps make it clear that they are to leave you some private time a couple evenings a week. I would think a 17 y/o is out frequently by default but I’d think your mil would also want to make herself scarce frequently.
Post # 9
haha, my hubby always feels uncomfortable about this when we visit his parents, but I made him last time because I’d FINALLY got a +OPK that morning. I thought we were very quiet… but when we were finished he said that he didn’t think we were. Ah well, they know we have sex, I’m sure (not that I’d want to make them feel uncomfortable!!).
But they are down a hallway a bit, so i’m sure that next door is even harder!!
Post # 10
@MrsDulce: Oh no, how awkward! Along the same lines, at the end of this week I should be ovulating and we will be on a weekend getaway at the lake with six of our closest friends. We’ll even be sharing a room with another couple! I told my husband that we need to get it on in the shower or the car or something but he is not having it, haha.
I hope the situation with your MIL and SIL is fixed soon so you don’t have to worry about this indefinitely!
Post # 11
EEEEK! That sucks! However, bd issssssssss possible! My husband and I have perfected the art of being quiet. We used to have sex in our parents’ house alllll the time when we were younger. It was kind of exciting to see how heated things could get all the while trying to keep as quiet as possible. The walls in my parent’s house are paper thin, too; I swear you can hear people breathe as well, but we still did it, successfully! And no, my parents did not turn a blind eye to the situation. Practice makes perfect! Try doing it standing up, and put your hands on the wall or a piece of furniture to brace yourself. That’s usually how we did it the most quietly. A bed can make noises too easily.
Good luck! (I hope my post wasn’t too TMI!)
Post # 12
shower sex?? haha just a thought! 🙂
Post # 13
Turn on some music. I hope they take some time to go out for a movie or dinner with friends so you guys have some alone time.
Post # 14
I know it sucks, but I wouldn’t stop TTC I would just be quiet. And then you can always spice it up when you know you have the house to yourself.
Post # 15
Dumb question, what is BD?
Post # 16
@FutureMrs.Wood: I just told hubs about your post. Our bed frame is broken so it squeaks, and I’ve been trying to get him to fix it for weeks. He is now, suddenly, very motivated to put our mattress on the floor!!! hahaha
@aussiebee: baby dance 🙂