Post # 1
I found out a few weeks ago that at my wedding (over a year ago) My Mother In Law and Step Father In Law pulled the Rabbi aside while DH and I were doing pictures and renewed their vows. My Mom let the cat out of the bag, DH found out from his mom several months after the wedding because he was wondering when a particular photo of them was taken.
I am not upset they did this at the wedding, I am upset that they did not include DH and I in this so we could somehow make it special for them. I am upset they are having this air of seacrecy by telling DH NOT to tell me about it. Well oops, my mom told me so oh well.
THis woman has a habit of making me out to be an evil horrible person but she will then exclude us from things and lie to us. This is the same woman who took home the leftover wedding cake when we asked her not to… now I know WHY she did it.
Post # 3
@ignatiangal: ………..I think its weird that they renewed their vows at your wedding. They probably realized that and figured it would annoy you that they were A) trying to steal your thunder B) piggybacking or C) Not focusing enough on the main event (your wedding). I’m a little surprised you didn’t have any of those reactions (which would have been mine).
Post # 4
Wow. I would have def asked if I were them. Hiding it all this time, telling SO not to tell you, and taking the leftover cake was pretty crappy.
Post # 5
Maybe the secrecy was due to her not wanting to upset you, or make you feel like she was stealing some thunder from you on your wedding day?
Why would you be upset with her taking leftover cake home? Unless you were doing the top tier freezing thing and she took that, I don’t understand why that’s a bad thing.
Post # 6
The cake thing… oy… okay….
She had the venue STOP serving the cake to our guests so as to “save it for us” it had been made clear to her many times we were not saving the top layer b/c for our 1st aniversary our baker was re-making our top layer.
Some of our guests including my own mother didn’t get cake because she made them stop serving the cake so she could “save it for us” The day after the wedding, we stop by their house on the way to our honeymoon to ask why she did this ( were given the “saving it for you” bs response) We decided that we wanted to take a piece to have on the honeymoon, she didn’t want us too, so my DH went to their downstairs fridge and pulled out the cake, turns out she had cut it and been eating it. She got caught in her lie infront of her brother with whom she had been playing the “I am innocent and ignatiangal is SOOOOOO mean to me all the time” whenever there was a disagreement about anything during the wedding planning.
Post # 7
@ignatiangal: Thats really weird. I would have told the venue to ignore her and continue serving it.
Post # 8
I was a little shocked at first, but I am not one to, even on my own wedding day, think the world revolves around me. Yes I know every bride is entitled to think that way on her wedding day but I am not like that. I did think it was rude not at least ASKING first but DH and I are more upset they excluded us from being there when they did it.
Post # 9
@asscherlover: We didn’t know what was said until after she packed it up and I saw her hauling it out and honestly I didn’t want to start a fight with her at my wedding. Needless to say a huge ammount of cake is STILL in her freezer.
Post # 10
Wow she’s a classy lady ‘not! Thats pretty low of her and cheap for goodness sakes
Post # 11
Wow at the stop serving cake bit…
Post # 12
Wow, what a B! I would just try to think of it as finally having evidence of what a selfish lady she is. That’s so terrible OP, I would not be nearly as classy about the cake or the vow renewal as you’re being!
Post # 13
I don’t want to stir up trouble, but what bothers me most is DH didn’t tell you after his mom told him. Make it clear to DH that there should be no secrets between the two of you, and his loyalty to you is more important that his loyalty to her.