(Closed) MIL is trying to outshine me!!!!

posted 5 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Let her be?
    Yes : (24 votes)
    51 %
    No : (23 votes)
    49 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    3572 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Honestly, let it go. If it really is that similar, she will be the one who looks like an idiot in a dess that’s not age appropriate. No one is going to question who the bride is. I know it’s annoying and a bit gauche, but fighting over it is just SO not worth it. You are going to be family with this woman. And it’s definitely a bit difficult to adjust to accepting a whole new chunk of family – the good and the bad – even the in the best of circumstances. (I have really lucked out with a wonderful MIL, but that doesn’t mean that some of the stuff she does doesn’t annoy the living daylights out of me, and I’m sure vice versa). The thing about family though, is that we all have a few quirks. 

    Congratulations though! The wedding will be here before you know it, and I’m sure you’ll look beautiful!

    Post # 4
    Member
    1805 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I agree with PP, if anyone is gonna look silly, it’s gonna be her. You’re the bride you will obviously be the center of attention and any attention she does get won’t be the good kind. I can’t imagine the things people will think and say when they see her in that ridiculous dress! Let it go and let her make a fool of herself

    Post # 5
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    376 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Agreed– No one will be confused about who the bride is, and she’ll be the one that everyone makes fun of. If it really bother you, your fiance should address it with her and remind her that the color of the dress was one of the only restrictions.

    Post # 6
    Member
    2638 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2006

    I’m not saying this wouldn’t bother me but it is SO TRUE when everyone says that she’s the one who’s going to look out of place/like an asshole, not you!

     

    Post # 7
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    47 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I have to disagree ladies. Sorry, but I see this as an attempt to push over the bride. MIL should know better…..and I’m betting she does. Bride needs to have a sit down with FI and MIL there when bride tells her FMIL to knock it off. The dress is too similar to the brides and it isnt as if FMIL didn’t know. She’s doing it on purpose. 

     

    These bully tactics will continue into other wedding related events and most likely long after the wedding if this behavior is allowed to continue now. 

     

    I understand the need to keep the peace, but this is about the bride and groom. These are the memories she’ll have looking back in a year, 10 years, etc…. Boundaries need to be set now. 

    Post # 8
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    5371 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

    @KSBlueyz:  Ahah the OP got married in May, I don’t think telling her MIL now to knock it off will help. Hopefully the OP was able to enjoy her wedding despite her MIL’s dress.

    Post # 9
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    882 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @sparkle15:  Take it from me, I tried to talk FMIL out of wearing what she wanted to (and she didn’t wear it after all) but after I did, I felt really crappy about it.  The day isn’t just about you, as much as the industry would like you to believe.  You are joining 2 families together and she is also losing her son, in a sense.  The more control you try to exert over her, the more she will baulk.

    In the end, it doesn’t matter.  Everyone will be looking at you, not her.  If they do notice she is dressed similiarly they will think she is tacky.  That’s her problem, not yours.

    Post # 10
    Member
    882 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @sugarpea:  Haha.  I thought it said 2014.  I think I need a nap.

    Post # 11
    Member
    2964 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    She won’t outshine you.

    Post # 12
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    5371 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016

    @MrsM914:  It’s okay, we’ve all done it aha 😉

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