(Closed) MIL comparing you to SIL

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I do this to myself because both of my future sister in laws are thin and pretty.  I am fat and dumpy.  So it’s not easy.  

My future mother in law doesn’t overtly compare us, but she’ll say things like, “People who read books are fat.”  And I love reading.  So…there you go.  

Post # 4
3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I’m going to be the good daughter. I think my Future Sister-In-Law will be coming on here to complain about her mom talking about me :-/

ETA: Future Sister-In-Law is a stick figure, though, and I’m not so much. I do hear about how Future Sister-In-Law is working out, wow she lost all those inches, isn’t that amazing? But it doesn’t bother me too much.

Post # 5
909 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@peachacid:  I do it to myself too. One of my FSIL’s could be a model! She’s tan, tall and thin, a dancer, plus she’s super smart and plans on going to medical school. So hard not to compare yourself……

Post # 6
9917 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@PinkAndPearls2013:  At least the tan part isn’t really a good thing.  =)  I hate it.  It’s like…can I please just be super thin like them?  No, no I cannot.  


On the plus side, I have more education, I have a steady job I love, I can play sports…

Post # 7
374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sometimes I hear about FSIL’s accomplishments and feel intimidated.  She’s applying to all of these Ivy League schools and is hearing back with all of these full-ride scholarships.

I went to an amazing college (and met Fiance there) so I know Future Mother-In-Law is not trying to make me feel bad, but sometimes the bragging gets old.

Post # 9
3303 posts
Sugar bee

I am not close to my Future Sister-In-Law or my Future Mother-In-Law so I don’t hear any bragging. Actually my Fiance and I have a lot more to brag about than my Future Sister-In-Law and her husband. If anything, I think Future Sister-In-Law doesn’t want anyone to talk about me to her since it will remind her that she isn’t doing too much with her life right now.

I don’t pay attention either way. I don’t do anything for the sake of bragging or having someone talk positively about me. 

Post # 10
2961 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Things do change. My FSILs all talked and whispered about me and then had the nerve to complain to Future Mother-In-Law that I didn’t talk to them! All I heard was how great they were, blah, blah, blah. SO I went out of my way to be polite and pleasant around them but other than that, I didn’t change a damn thing. I totally refused to let myself be affected by their pettiness. Well various events occurred and NOW I’m the “good one”. Go figure.The point is that I recognize that I am an individual, and if I somehow didn’t “measure up” that it was her/their problem, not mine. I am  busy person, I don’t have time to worry about what Future In-Laws think about me.

Post # 11
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

@peachacid:  People who read books are fat?!  Que?  Pssh…people who read are sexy!  I suppose once you crack open the book you start expanding…wow, your Mother-In-Law is somethine else!

I don’t have any SILs but I do self-compare all the time… 🙁

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