Post # 1
Has anyone ever had any experiences with their Mother-In-Law comparing them to their SIL (FI’s brother’s wife) or just generally singing SIL’s praises, specifically about things that you do differently, when you’re around? I’d like to hear some of your examples.
Post # 3
I do this to myself because both of my future sister in laws are thin and pretty. I am fat and dumpy. So it’s not easy.
My future mother in law doesn’t overtly compare us, but she’ll say things like, “People who read books are fat.” And I love reading. So…there you go.
Post # 4
I’m going to be the good daughter. I think my Future Sister-In-Law will be coming on here to complain about her mom talking about me :-/
ETA: Future Sister-In-Law is a stick figure, though, and I’m not so much. I do hear about how Future Sister-In-Law is working out, wow she lost all those inches, isn’t that amazing? But it doesn’t bother me too much.
Post # 5
@peachacid: I do it to myself too. One of my FSIL’s could be a model! She’s tan, tall and thin, a dancer, plus she’s super smart and plans on going to medical school. So hard not to compare yourself……
Post # 6
@PinkAndPearls2013: At least the tan part isn’t really a good thing. =) I hate it. It’s like…can I please just be super thin like them? No, no I cannot.
On the plus side, I have more education, I have a steady job I love, I can play sports…
Post # 7
Sometimes I hear about FSIL’s accomplishments and feel intimidated. She’s applying to all of these Ivy League schools and is hearing back with all of these full-ride scholarships.
I went to an amazing college (and met Fiance there) so I know Future Mother-In-Law is not trying to make me feel bad, but sometimes the bragging gets old.
Post # 8
@peachacid: My friend’s Mother-In-Law frequently makes comments about “fat people” then turns to my friend and says “but not you…” WTH? I think she thinks she’s being funny, but I don’t see how that’s funny. I also love to read so I guess she can think I’m fat, too, lol.
Post # 9
I am not close to my Future Sister-In-Law or my Future Mother-In-Law so I don’t hear any bragging. Actually my Fiance and I have a lot more to brag about than my Future Sister-In-Law and her husband. If anything, I think Future Sister-In-Law doesn’t want anyone to talk about me to her since it will remind her that she isn’t doing too much with her life right now.
I don’t pay attention either way. I don’t do anything for the sake of bragging or having someone talk positively about me.
Post # 10
Things do change. My FSILs all talked and whispered about me and then had the nerve to complain to Future Mother-In-Law that I didn’t talk to them! All I heard was how great they were, blah, blah, blah. SO I went out of my way to be polite and pleasant around them but other than that, I didn’t change a damn thing. I totally refused to let myself be affected by their pettiness. Well various events occurred and NOW I’m the “good one”. Go figure.The point is that I recognize that I am an individual, and if I somehow didn’t “measure up” that it was her/their problem, not mine. I am busy person, I don’t have time to worry about what Future In-Laws think about me.
Post # 11
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
@peachacid: People who read books are fat?! Que? Pssh…people who read are sexy! I suppose once you crack open the book you start expanding…wow, your Mother-In-Law is somethine else!
I don’t have any SILs but I do self-compare all the time… 🙁