MIL Drama after it was 'all good'… Bringing up MY past??

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Haruyou:  I wouldn’t take it too personally, you two I am sure have a lot on your plate. The last thing you need is to over analyze your MIL’s snooty comments. She is just upset, I would let her hash it out with the FI and have him handle her since he knows her best. You interfering might just make you more upset or make her a little more crazy.

For her to bring up your past is non of her business, so ignoring her comment will just solidify that. At least I think it will. Be the better person.

Post # 4
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308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Haruyou:  It is possible she could be making it a personal attack, but that is why you stand your ground and don’t jump to her level. It would be pointless and only make you more upset. She is throwing a fit and trying to start drama over petty bullshit, so to me, that isn’t worth your time.

As for the cousin, if he is that innapropriate and disrespectful then I wouldn’t invite him. If your MIL is paying for the weddnig though, I would maybe just explain to her your reasoning behind it and leave it at that. If she isn’t paying for the wedding then she has no say and needs no explanation. You will always run into those issues, but bottom line, it is a day for you and your FI, not your cousin and not your MIL.

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 1 month ago by  Kendrao.
Post # 5
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2515 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Haruyou:  Wow, how totally rude and inconsiderate of your MIL to throw that in your face like that. 

I would just ignore it and invite ( or not invite) whoever you want to the wedding. Its your day and if you and your FI are on the same page about the cousin, have your FI tell her that he is not invited, isn’t welcome and no further discussion is needed about it.

I would also keep my private details of my life from MIL after this point…she has proven she will use them to attack you. Shame on her.

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