- 6 years ago
My MIL has caused some issues, the most recent one not showing up to the ceremony. My H thinks it was because she was being passive aggressive and wanted to see how important she really was and cause issues. She is constantly passive aggressive and after insisting she has a bbq as it is tradition (which was very nice, and we had a great time!!!) she now hasn’t stopped emailing H and saying how sore she is, tired she is, how she needs to rest-unprompted. Three pages of this whining in an email…how she took tylenol, is swollen, poor her. It won’t stop.
The newest email demands that my H gets together with her “asap, as she wants an itemized list of all the money and gifts we got, right away in case she gets invited to a wedding and needs to know how much they gave and such???!!!?!?!? (she wrote it like that, like she was annoyed we hadn’t shared that with her already, as H took all the cards from the gift opening ceremony).
I mean, come on. We are in our mid thirties, and no one from her family sent us a wedding gift except her brother. Not her other brother, sister, mother, no one.
And she went with him when he bought our gift. She then demanded to know if anyone even bought anything off our registry and what it cost. She sent this lovely email to my H tonight.
I am beyond mad. She embarrassed him and us by not being there at the wedding ceremony, also all the other crap, including, after reading that email, we went into the store where she said our wedding gift was waiting for us but-guess what-her card is bouncing so we sat there with the gift registry consultant…who tried to e overly nice and saying sometimes payments just go through late, etc etc etc and sorry we had t ocome al lthe way down there.
I have talked to H to talk with her-more in a “You need to talk with her and tell her how you are feeling, how this is affecting us”
I don’t know what else to say or do. I am hurting over this, H is hurting…not sure if this is more a vent or looknig for advice on how to handle this, I have no idea…Im done. So done–and the marriage has just begun.