(Closed) MIL… Driving me crazy!!! 2 days to go! Rant

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

@VirginiaR:  She says she wants to hold him, carress, him and love him before he becomes mine! 

She actually said this? Ew! I’m planning on Fiance walk Future Mother-In-Law down the aisle, because I think it would be a nice touch- I know she’d appreciate it. 

Post # 4
411 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it’s somewhat “standard” for the groom to escort his mother if you’re having a wedding where groomsmen and groom are in the processional. I think it’s been done that way at most of the weddings I’ve attended, and that’s what we’ll be doing. For my Fiance and I, at least, our wedding is every bit as important to our parents as it is to us, so we want to do everything we can to include them.

That being said, just because something is standard or traditional doesn’t mean you have to do it!!!  Do you think she wants him to escort her because she wants the attention of getting to walk down the aisle, or could it be that she honestly wants to improve her relationship with her son? It might be easiest to just let it happen … though the wanting to caress him stuff is just plain creepy!

Post # 5
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My groom is Jewish and the groom walking down the aisle with both his parents during the procession is a traditional part of Jewish weddings – so that’s what we’re doing. I like the idea, before the ceremony he is “theirs”, just like I’m my dad’s — and after the ceremony the groom and I walk back up the aisle together, because now we belong to each other instead of our parents. All that said…your FMIL’s language is definitely a little disconcerting!

Post # 6
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Yeah it’s fine for him to walk her down the isle, what she said is not! Be careful not to get drawn into a competitive relationship with her, if you lighten up and stop reacting to her, after a time she will as well. Believe me this approach can save you a lot of problems down the road! That being said I would have been completely creeped out if my mil had said something like that.

Post # 7
1628 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

That is the creepiest way she could have ever described it.  I think her description is what’s throwing you off, but him walking her down the aisle isn’t terribly unusual.

Post # 8
171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My Future Mother-In-Law makes similar comments all the time, it creeps me out. I think she needs to cut the cord. As long as your Future Mother-In-Law understands that that the wedding is for the two of you and doesn’t make any more dramatic comments I don’t see any harm on letting her walk down by him. Its pretty normal but after that he is all yours!

Post # 9
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

My dh and his mother actually got into a huge fight over this 2 weeks before the wedding. She wanted all the attention on her and he flat out refused to do it, then she threatened not to come. Ughh…

“She says she wants to hold him, carress, him and love him before he becomes mine!”

That’s disgusting.

Post # 10
6826 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Personally I think you are making a big deal out of nothing, so what if she wants him to walk her down the aisle for pete’s sake that is what maybe a minute walk??? As for what she said yuck, but seriously you are over reacting you will have him for the rest of your life..

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