M.I.L. from hell

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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5207 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@MrsHappyrock:  wow she sounds like a nut case! I’m sorry you have to deal with her. You should buy a brand new mixer, wrap it up really pretty with bows and ribbons, and leave it on her doorstep along with a card that simply says “fuck you”. 

Post # 5
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4576 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Aquaria:  +10

@MrsHappyrock:  …is your MIL my mother? She has done everything you described above except for rock a wedding dress at my wedding, but seeing as how that hasnt happened yet there’s still time.

I would give her the mixer back and say something to the effect of “I hope you feel this was worth it.”

Post # 6
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348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Lake Anna Winery

@Aquaria:  LOL!!

 

@MrsHappyrock:  I’m so sorry his mom is like that. I have the opposite situation. My mother is over bearing and controlling. But I agree with him. Time to cut ties!

Post # 7
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457 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The mixer isn’t worth your sanity. Give it back, and if DH wants to cut her off, let him! She’s done nothing but disrespect you, DH, and your family, so why should you continue to try with her?

If he wants to say something, he can let her know that he won’t tolerate her behavior anymore. She’s disrespected him, and you guys as a couple, for too long. Maybe he could even say he’s willing to have a HEALTHY relationship with her, but until she’s ready for that, he will not allow her to do this to you guys anymore.

If her family chooses to side with her instead of you, well… That’s unfortunate, but their decision. It’s not worth putting up with this toxic woman to have their approval.

Post # 8
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919 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@MrsHappyrock:  She constantly pulls the crying and whining “I’m so lonely and everyone hates me” when she gets called out on her behavior because it generally makes dh cave to what she wants. For the wedding she did absolutely nothing. She didn’t offer to help and when she was asked she said she would and then wouldn’t do what she was asked. She didn’t contribute any money or labor

 
That is my MIL in a nutshell. Sometimes you just have to look at how ridiculous some people can be, and laugh to yourself about it, and remind yourself to not be that unreasonable. She can keep singing her “everyone hates me and abandoned me but I don’t understand why” song until she listens for once and makes an actual effort to change.
 
 

Post # 9
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1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

I’d say returning the mixer and then cutting her out of your lives is the best gift you can give yourself. It’s telling that your husband wants his own mother out of his life.

I think your mom will understand if you explain the situation.

Post # 10
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712 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Aquaria:  

LOLOLOLOL You are so funny.

Post # 12
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53 posts
Worker bee

Unfortunatly, MILs are people, and sometimes, people suck. Her attitude isn’t going to change just because her son got married– she is and always will be a narcissist. Your husband is willing to take the first steps in removing her toxic influence from your life, be thankful. Sometimes they never come around, and you spend 30 years dealing with someone who hates you.

Give her the mixer, cut her off. She won’t change, and to hold out hope that she will is just going to break your heart; she’ll certainly never notice that you want a better relationship. It sounds like you won’t miss her.

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