(Closed) MIL- Getting past wedding issues

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

To tell you the truth, I was expecting a *much* worse horror story. It’s fine if she’s in your getting-ready pictures; it would have been nice to include her from the start since she is now your family, too. And as much as it may have irked you because you feel like she made it about her (and I don’t doubt that she did)… the way you described it? It doesn’t sound like that big of a deal. I think you can move on by accepting that your MIL might be a bit of an attention hog, and just always be prepared for that. No biggie! There are worse kinds of MILs to deal with. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

I kind of agree with Marigold, she should have been included in the getting ready plans from the beginning…It does sound like she needed a lot of attention but hey, whose MIL doesn’t? Unfortunately, she’s not going anywhere and neither are you so some you’ll have to find a way to manage her selfishness…Have you talked to your hubs about this? What does he think?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

do you see this as an ongoing issue or was it mostly about the wedding?

Post # 6
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483 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

She doesn’t have any daughters, does she?  Sounds like she’s being a little juvenile, but unfortunately, some people just don’t grow out of that.  You need to give yourself a break from her, come to terms with the fact that she is not incredibly selfless, and kind of adapt your standards to recognize that she will most likely exhibit this kind of behavior in the future… ๐Ÿ™‚ Good luck.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

My only suggestion is to look at the silver lining – the man that you married tried to stand up for you against his mother. I have a similar situation with my FMIL and getting my fiance to realize that in certain situations his allegiances need to change has been an uphill battle.

And if you’re bothered by her presence in some of your getting ready photos then find a good designer to photoshop her out of your favorites. Photoshop is a beautiful thing ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 8
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Newbee

I think you are justified in your feelings about her! If you’re doing an album, I would try to make her invisible in those getting-ready photos b/c you will just keep remembering that incident every time you look at them. I would try to forgive her for the wedding day incident, but watch out for her in the future. I hope that she will not make your married life revolve around her as well. Best wishes to you ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m dealing with MIL issues myself, so I understand!

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