Post # 1
So this past weekend, my FI’s family had a dinner. I was working so I didn’t go.
But I guess my future MIL told FI she wants to plan 3 trips for our honeymoon and have us pick one. She is a travel agent.
She did NOT say she is then going to pay for this trip… Would you assume she means pick one, we’ll pay?
Not to sound rude, but if she isn’t planning to also pay for the trip, why would I have her plan it out for us without really talking to us about what we want…? I’m confused!!
Post # 3
I agree with you, you should clarify that with her. If she not paying I don’t think you guys are obligated to sue her to plan the trip.
Post # 4
To me it sounds like she is going to pay but I might be wrong. You probably want to have your FI ask what she means. He could say that it’s sweet but you only have X amount budgeted for the honeymoon and see where she goes from there.
Post # 5
I would assume she was paying, but I would inquire on the cost of all three just to get her to clarify who is paying.
Post # 6
@MrsSaltWaterTaffy: This is a good idea. I don’t want to be tacky and just be like “so, youre paying?”. Awkward situation. I wish people were more straightforward with this type of stuff!
Post # 7
Agreed. If she isn’t paying (and it doesn’t sound like she is) then she should step off (Step off George!) and let you decide what/where/when you want to go. If you need her assistance with ideas and recommendations then you should be able to ask without any obligation.
Post # 8
As the pp have already said, you need to ask your FI to talk to his mum. If she’s paying, I would go ahead – if not, it’s just weird and I would decline.
Post # 9
@FauxBoho: Haha!! We have no problem using her to book the honeymoon. But I want to be involved in planning it if she is not going to pay. Well… I want to be involved either way, but I get the fun on her part.
Post # 10
I actually think it sounds like she IS paying but it DEFINITELY isn’t clear enough to assume! I hope she is for your sake!
Post # 11
Just have your Fiance say, “thanks mom, that’s really nice of you to take on the planning. We’ve decided we’ve got a $xxxx budget so if you can try to stay within that we’d really appriciate it.
From there, she’ll either plan within your budget, or let you know that it was her intention to pay for it.