There are how many patients per each doctor? Doctors who also have their own lives, their own worries, stresses, concerns? Do you honestly think each doctor has each patient’s problems at the top of their list? No. They don’t. There are too many patients for that. It’s impossible. Doctors start with the best practice first, when they fails they look at something else. Only after so many attempts do they finally stop and actually look at the patient, not just the symptoms. They have good days, and bad days, and days where they don’t want to get up and go to work either, just like the rest of us.
Had I just blindly listened to doctors over 10 years ago, I wouldn’t have a hand. They wanted to remove it after severe nerve damage and phantom limb, telling me I would never have use of it again, so might as well just rid myself of the problem. The same problem that I’ve fixed, with the help of a Physical Therapist for over 10 years, and have 80% use again. So no, just listening to doctors for the sake of listening is stupid. No one is more invested in a person’s body than that person, except for babies. And it would behoove anyone to educate themselves on just what is going on, steps to take, and what works for their body.
OP, you need to do what is best for your child. Your MIL, while in love with her grand baby, is an adult. She can understand the situation and react accordingly. I would give it some weeks to pass, and then reunite them for Christmas. She should be able to put her grand baby’s health before her own wants and desires. The way time is flying, it’s only 21 days until Christmas. Personally, my baby would be kept away, and kept safe, but as I said, I don’t put a whole lot of stock into what doctors say these days. Sure, I’d ask their opinions, since they know medical way more than I do, but I’d also remember that they aren’t the ones compromising their (in this case) child’s health.
As an aside, I don’t intend for my post to come off as a rag against doctors. I have lot of friends who are doctors, and nurses, and I respect their opinion. Absolutely. I just don’t believe that anyone is more invested than myself in my health, as it should be, and that doctors often forget that they aren’t living with the choices being made – the patient is. At the end of the day, it’s just a job, and it’s always easier said than done.