- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
Hey everyone, I’m new to the bee (been a lurker for a while now though!) and some stuff happened this weekend that I just need to get off my chest.
Let me start by saying that Darling Husband and I have had a great relationship with his parents…until now. We were only together for about 5 months when I got pregnant with our daughter. We live about 3 hours from my family (I lived in the city we reside in now for college, which I eventually dropped out of and got a job all before meeting DH) so having his family near has meant a lot to us. They helped us out a lot and treated me like I was their daughter.
Every weekend we go to their home for dinner and for our daughter to have some grandparent time. Ever since our wedding (5 months ago) Mother-In-Law has been giving me attitude, like I did something to her. I have a very sharp tongue, but one thing Darling Husband asked me to do in the start of our relationship is to just not respond to his mother when she acts like a B to people, because she is known for that. So when she says things like “Why do you buy jeans with holes in them, you look like trash!” You can imagine how hard it is to just smile and say nothing! Somehow I’ve done it though! We’ve been together for 4 years, and it really does seem like the day after the wedding, something switched and now she hates me. I just brushed it off, I felt like I had more to worry about than if people like me or not.
So this weekend, the poop hit the fan. We went over there like we always do and as soon as Mother-In-Law came home from work I knew it was going to be one of those days. I go to say hello to her and as soon as she looks at me she says, “Your hair is too long, you look bad.” Umm ok, whatever. I just turn around to take a breather, but I could tell that Darling Husband was at his snapping point.
Later on that afternoon she made a comment to Darling Husband that I call her “a witch” behind her back (which I should, but don’t!) and he finally had enough. They started arguing back in forth about something stupid, so I decided it would be best to get our 3 yr. old daughter out of the room. Later on I find out that his father joined the argument and it was just a mess. After Father-In-Law, Mother-In-Law, and Darling Husband got it all out, Darling Husband found the babes and me playing and said it would probably be for the best if we leave then.
So I told our daughter to go say goodbye and give kisses. She runs to Mother-In-Law and gives great big hugs. Father-In-Law comes in the room and the arguing starts again, all while Mother-In-Law is holding Dirty Delete. Now this whole time, I haven’t said a WORD in the argument. I was just standing there, waiting for the best moment to scoop up Dirty Delete. Mother-In-Law and Darling Husband start talking about the “witch” comment, she’s saying it never happened, he’s saying it did, and I’m giving a look like this is the stupidest argument ever. She drops a “Well f**K you both!” I’m thinking, “Well f**k you too!”, but instead take Dirty Delete out of her arms. She PUSHES Dirty Delete at me and then PUNCHED me in my arm. I just walked out with Dirty Delete, I couldn’t believe it. Darling Husband is so upset. He says that he never wants to talk to either of his parents again, which I feel is fine with me. What if she accidentally hit Dirty Delete instead of me??! I feel so bad for Dirty Delete though; she is so close to her grandparents.
I don’t know what to think. I feel bad for Darling Husband and Dirty Delete. Thanks for letting me vent!