Post # 1
So we are having a destination wedding in the Dominican Republic, we invited 37 people. We only invited close friends and immediate family. So fast forward to today and my future MILL leaves a voicemail for my FH saying that she is super excited for the wedding, she invited their family friends, and forwarded my email about reservations to the entire family. This will possibly add 30-40 people to the wedding, we won’t be able to have our reservation where we wanted because it’s too many people, it’s way more money than we wanted to spend, AND none of my family is going to be there because we kept it small, so I am going to be surrounded by strangers at my intimate wedding!! What do I do?
Post # 2
You call her and tell her to undo what she did. She has no right to invite a bunch of random people to your wedding. If she refuses, then she gets to cough up the money to pay for all of those people or they’ll be making the trip for nothing because they will not be included in your wedding festivities.
Post # 3
Thank you, this is my opinion as well, I legit lost my mind when I heard the voicemail!! I told my FH that he had to call and talk to her!
Post # 4
If she is not paying for your wedding, she needs to rescind those invites. And I agree that this is a call your fiancé has to make.
Post # 5
alwalters625: Tell her she has to fix it, right away. My FMIL did some things similar to this and I made her call people and fix it. SERIOUSLY do NOT let her control your wedding. It has been my experience that the more flexible I am with mine the more she takes advantage. Now that I’ve started being firm she is being way more reasonable.
I am so sorry this is happening to you, that is completely unfair. I hope you are able to fix it quickly.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2015 - The Old Courthouse in Cleveland
I’m on board with the rest, she needs to fix it! While she probably didn’t mean to sabatoge your plans, that was completely out of line.
I’d suggest that when you tell her you thouroughly explain it. Your reasoning is very good, and it will help her to tactfully uninvite the guests.
Post # 7
I wholeheartedly agree with these ladies. Tell your FI to tell his mother to undo this mess. Its yours and your FIs day. Not hers. If she’s not paying, she doesn’t get a say. And even if she DOES end up paying for these people, I still wouldn’t invite them/change venues/or make any other sacrifice that you don’t want to.