MIL invitation help!!!

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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602 posts
Busy bee

You call her and tell her to undo what she did. She has no right to invite a bunch of random people to your wedding. If she refuses, then she gets to cough up the money to pay for all of those people or they’ll be making the trip for nothing because they will not be included in your wedding festivities. 

Post # 4
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7 posts
Newbee

If she is not paying for your wedding, she needs to rescind those invites.  And I agree that this is a call your fiancé has to make.

Post # 5
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1216 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

alwalters625:  Tell her she has to fix it, right away. My FMIL did some things similar to this and I made her call people and fix it. SERIOUSLY do NOT let her control your wedding. It has been my experience that the more flexible I am with mine the more she takes advantage. Now that I’ve started being firm she is being way more reasonable. 

I am so sorry this is happening to you, that is completely unfair. I hope you are able to fix it quickly. 

Post # 6
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153 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - The Old Courthouse in Cleveland

I’m on board with the rest, she needs to fix it! While she probably didn’t mean to sabatoge your plans, that was completely out of line. 

I’d suggest that when you tell her you thouroughly explain it. Your reasoning is very good, and it will help her to tactfully uninvite the guests. 

Post # 7
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579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I wholeheartedly agree with these ladies. Tell your FI to tell his mother to undo this mess. Its yours and your FIs day. Not hers. If she’s not paying, she doesn’t get a say. And even if she DOES end up paying for these people, I still wouldn’t invite them/change venues/or make any other sacrifice that you don’t want to.

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