Post # 1
My FI and I have been together for 4 years. We held a dinner for the parents to be more familiar with one another. MIL presonally told me, “You know the bride’s parents usually pay for the wedding.” I always thought she was cheap, but jeez her son is also getting married. She’s not working, but with her husband owns 2 houses, lives on one floor and lease 3 floors. Now a year later, she is asking if we already sent invitations out, we said no, she said “good” , she has 4 of her friends she wants to invite and more from her church. The same person who literally said she’s not giving a dime for the wedding. She told my FI to remove some of his friends from the guest list so she can invite her friends. Should I let my FI handle the situation or should I say something to her?
Post # 3
Tell her she can invite them if she pays for it! Im not one to take crap like that! So that’s my opinion, sorry you are dealing with this!
Post # 4
I would let him handle it. Future MIL’s can be something when it comes to planning a wedding, and have all the opinions in the world. My FI told his mom from the beginning, “If you don’t have any money to contribute, we don’t need your input.” Needless to say everything she wanted she paid for it. Good luck sweets and don’t let her selfishness upset you.
Post # 5
Talk over with FH and let him handle it.
Post # 6
Thanks Bees, my mom is mostly paying for everything and she hasn’t been this bossy. I think, I’ll let the FI handle it.
Post # 7
Lol @ “You know the bride’s parents usually pay for the wedding.”
why this is true, times have changed. everybody pitches in now in days. my dad always says, “If you want to marry one of my daughter’s, you better be able to pay as well”.
I agree let your FI handle it, she sounds like a real winner.
Post # 8
I’m not sure about letting FI handle it. Will he fold to her will when under pressure or can he tell her no?
My FI will fold under his mother’s pressure because he doesn’t know how to tell her no. So I have to pipe up when she tries to secretly invite ppl behind my back (she isn’t paying for anything we are). I yell loud enough for her to hear me “If she paying for them she can invite them!” I don’t care what she thinks. We don’t get along at all.
Post # 9
The good thing is my FI is able to say no to his mother and not be pressured to say yes.