(Closed) MIL no gift!!!!!

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would be hurt as well. Has your DH spoken to her to make sure a card or something didnt get lost in the process?

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My MIL did absolutely nothing for us either. Not even a card. Girl she didn’t help at all setting up on wedding day or helping clean up afterwards. Was I hurt? Nope but very disappointed 

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Hmm.  While my thoughts on gifts is well documented on the bee this seems odd even to me.

What does your husband say?

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Did they wish you well verbally, and were they happy for you on the day? In that case I would let it go. It is possible to genuinely forget to give a card.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

They do have up to a year to make a gift to the newlywed couple so I wouldn’t even let it cross my mind for another 10 months.

Post # 9
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Helper bee

I would be mad … Who goes to a wedding with no gift or card even if it’s an empty card … And to be the MIL or SIL….. Even if I didn’t know the couple and was a guest at a wedding I would feel  embarrassed to at least not sign my name  in addition to my date  that I was accompanying… it’s just polite to give at least a card , no matter how close or not you are to the individuals celebrating and you are lucky to be attending … 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Diamond88:  I don’t see the point in being mad, there is nothing is to be gained from it. If they aren’t happy for you, then it’ll have to be dealt with in the future anyway. If they are happy for you, then it’s just a mistake. Either way, nothing is to be gained from being upset, it’s just a piece of cardboard. You’re not entitled to a gift or a card. Sure they’re nice to get. But if someone forgets or can’t be bothered… never mind.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Personally, I think it’s extremely rude for someone to come to a wedding and not even bring a card! Especially that it’s his mother and sister. I would talk toabout husband about it and see if he can talk to them. 

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2013

If I was you, I feel hurt too..

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

RUDE.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wow, how rude. I would be very upset

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We had the same thing happen to us. Immediately after registering, FI’s mom & dad went and bought us a “reach” item we’d placed on the registery-valued at $1,000 (they are well off). This was a few weeks before my shower so we both assumed it was a shower gift. At my shower future MIL never even gave me a card-I wasn’t expecting a gift as they had already bought it for us-but I thought I’d at least get a card with a nice message and to enjoy the new gift. I didn’t want people to think she hadn’t brought anything so I made a point of saying future MIL had already bought our gift (it was a piece of furniture which hadn’t been delivered yet). Then our wedding comes and we never got a card for that either! I thought it was so odd to not receive a card at both events. I’ve just written it off-DH’s parents are weird and it’s not worth being upset over. He’s not upset so I didn’t make a big deal out of it. Just found it so odd. They also did not contribute to the wedding itself, besides paying for the rehearsal dinner.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Aw well, we didn’t receive a card or a gift from FI’s parents either but I think it is just because they are clueless so I’m not taking it personally.  They did pay for the rehearsal dinner, and I’m just grateful for that and for the fact they are still healthy enough to attend our wedding and enjoy themselves 🙂

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