Post # 1
Aaaargggh! I know this sounds petty but it really is annoying the heck out of me. We got married nearly 2 months ago and gifts are still being delivered to PIL’s home. Up to now I have not opened not one of my gifts. NOT ONE! MIL does this for us “to take away the hassle”. I’ve asked if she could not do so, because I want to open them with DH, and I get told “I am not a 5 year old girl and these are not Christmas presents.” OK – we got to open the envelopes with cash in them, but I want to rip some wrapping paper!!! What is so wrong with that? All this is making me not want the gifts – I know!!! So childish I admit it! The last gift was a set of baking trays – different sizes etc. She said that “she thinks it’s better she returns it because she has some that she got when she got married we could have instead”. OMFG!!!!!
I know I’m being childish, and probably extremely ungrateful but I just needed a rant!
Post # 3
Oh no…. sounds like FI needs to have a discussion with MIL. I too would be cranky!!
Post # 4
Oh no, that is totally wrong. I would NEVER do that to my son and FDIL!!!!
Post # 5
That’s really weird. Your husband should talk to his mother, it’s not ok. Especially since you already asked her to stop!
Post # 6
Wow. That’s completely inappropriate. Your husband needs to talk to her.
Post # 7
if her name isnt on the parcel or envelope then she shouldnt be openiing it!
Post # 8
That is totally inappropriate….technically that is your mail and her opening it is illegal! I would have your H talk to her about it. I cannot believe an adult would do that…and then make suggestions about returning your gifts…WTF?
Just a couple of questions…why are gifts still going to her house? Are you guys at a different location? Are they from a registry? Maybe you could update the address?
Post # 9
Whoa.. what a cow.
They aren’t her presents, and since when has opening pressies been a hassle? NEVER!
I would get DH to have words with her.
Post # 10
If that happened even once I would have changed the registry address.
Post # 11
That is completely inappropriate. If they arrive through the mail, she is committing a federal offense by opening your mail. They are yours and your husband’s gifts. I agree with the other posters…can you change the address on your registry?
Post # 12
WTF??? it diesn’t matter if it’s not christmas, they aren’t hers to open!
Post # 13
Definately have a sit down with her and DH- this is completely inappropriate! (not to mention ilegal if you wanted to open that bag of tricks)
Post # 14
Yikes, I would be PO’d! Who does that??
Post # 15
@Cariad: I don’t think you’re being childish or ungrateful. Those are your and your husband’s belongings and she has no business opening them or telling you what you should or shouldn’t return. Not to mention, if her name isn’t on it she’s not supposed to open it anyway, especially if it arrives through usps. I agree with ElbieKay that you should change your registry address if possible.
Post # 16
That sounds so childish of her. Wow.
If you don’t ‘get’ to open them, why on earth does she? That’s so inconsiderate, that she’s not even listening to your request.
If I were you, I’d be totally passive aggressive and stop wrapping her birthday/christmas presents. ‘I didn’t want you to go to the trouble of having to open them yourself- such a pain!’