(Closed) MIL opening our gifts RANT

posted 6 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Oh no…. sounds like FI needs to have a discussion with MIL. I too would be cranky!!

Post # 4
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Helper bee

Oh no, that is totally wrong. I would NEVER do that to my son and FDIL!!!!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

That’s really weird. Your husband should talk to his mother, it’s not ok. Especially since you already asked her to stop! 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Wow. That’s completely inappropriate. Your husband needs to talk to her.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

if her name isnt on the parcel or envelope then she shouldnt be openiing it!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

That is totally inappropriate….technically that is your mail and her opening it is illegal! I would have your H talk to her about it.  I cannot believe an adult would do that…and then make suggestions about returning your gifts…WTF?  

Just a couple of questions…why are gifts still going to her house?  Are you guys at a different location?  Are they from a registry?  Maybe you could update the address?  

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Whoa.. what a cow.

They aren’t her presents, and since when has opening pressies been a hassle? NEVER!

I would get DH to have words with her.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If that happened even once I would have changed the registry address.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  That is completely inappropriate. If they arrive through the mail, she is committing a federal offense by opening your mail. They are yours and your husband’s gifts. I agree with the other posters…can you change the address on your registry?

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

WTF??? it diesn’t matter if it’s not christmas, they aren’t hers to open!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Definately have a sit down with her and DH- this is completely inappropriate! (not to mention ilegal if you wanted to open that bag of tricks)

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Yikes, I would be PO’d! Who does that??

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Cariad: I don’t think you’re being childish or ungrateful. Those are your and your husband’s belongings and she has no business opening them or telling you what you should or shouldn’t return. Not to mention, if her name isn’t on it she’s not supposed to open it anyway, especially if it arrives through usps. I agree with ElbieKay that you should change your registry address if possible.

Post # 16
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Helper bee

That sounds so childish of her. Wow.

If you don’t ‘get’ to open them, why on earth does she? That’s so inconsiderate, that she’s not even listening to your request.

If I were you, I’d be totally passive aggressive and stop wrapping her birthday/christmas presents. ‘I didn’t want you to go to the trouble of having to open them yourself- such a pain!’

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