- 3 years ago
Wedding is this month, since the beginning of the engagement futureMIL has come to me with several “ideas” for decor that she and her best friend have come up with. I have had to shoot many down as they weren’t my taste, so I took matters directly to my MIL (with my FH and SIL’s backup) and asked her to work on a few specific crafty tasks and did take some of her ideas that I was okay with.
From the SIL I found out she is going to her buddy’s house daily working on stuff, seemed like too much time was spent for the projects I assigned…. now at the venue meeting today she mentioned 2 surprises she’s worked on. One of them is burlap runners for the cocktail hour. I was taken aback at the fact she’s made (yet another) surprise, and my mother (who with my Dad is paying for 90%+ of the wedding) called me upset that she feels the look is too informal for the venue/look.
My mom has done a ton of the planning work and is not that crafty, but has mentioned a few things she doesn’t like and I’ve tried to respect that. Fiance thinks it doesn’t really matter and thinks they’re just already done so just use them. I’m not personally a big fan of burlap but would use them, moreso nervous about any future “surprises” that I don’t want.
I really like my MIL, she is usually so quiet and easy to get along with! We’ve been together for years and years so I know her well….. I don’t want to hurt her feelings but I want to respect my mom’s wishes and not be SURPRISED at my wedding.
So I think I will sit down with MIL but say…. What???