Post # 1
My new Mother-In-Law is a peach. Insert sarcastic sneer, here. I just got married 2 weeks ago, and she is already making my life hell. Actually, let me rephrase that. I am allowing her to make my life hell.
My Darling Husband has 2 kids from a previous marriage (one of those they got pregnant, they got married, she ran around, the second child isn’t his, they got a divorce things). They are adorable, and I love them to pieces.
Trust me when I say she is an absolutely cruel woman, and the things she has said/done to her son is almost unforgivable, nevermind the things she has said about me. I am really good at being the “ice queen,” and if you are a jackass, you don’t exist in my life. Um, I guess, until now.
You know how you just know someone for what they are? Yep, I’ve got her number, and she is sugar sweet to me, then says ugly things behind my back. To say something to her would give her power, but I am trying to reconcile her bitchiness to my life. She’s always wanting to get the kids when we have them, and when we get them back, they are full of all kinds of lies. I was taught never to hate anyone, but the havoc this woman is wreaking is incredible, so that I find my feelings for her are extreme, intense dislike.
So, do I ignore her, play the nicey nice game (which I hate with a passion), or call her out? What have some of you other bees done to resolve this, if anything? Or did the situation resolve itself in time? Any advice at all is welcomed…
Post # 3
I would bring it up with your husband. “Honey, Dayla and Marco came back from Nan-nan’s house and told me that she told them that I never make them wear seatbelts in the car. That’s just not true! I don’t want her to ruin the awesome relationship I have with Dayla and Marco. Can you help me with this?”
Post # 4
I wouldn’t monkey around with her at all, a confrontation would only exaggerate things and fuel her crazy fire, in my experience, being cheerfully unavailable is a faultless predicament. Especially if her venom is getting on the kids….just tell her you guys are booked, maybe next time, thanks for asking. Limit contact, ignore anything you hear and fill your emotional moat, she’ll find someone else to bother.
Post # 5
I would try and limit your interaction with her. She seems absolutely toxic for your family, and you have to do what you have to do.
Post # 6
Thanks everyone, for your help. I will limit my interaction with her, for sure. I tried letting her into my life, despite DH’s warnings not to, and I learned my lesson.
If I need it, that’s a very nice “ace up my sleeve,” peachacid.
Post # 7
I would try avoidance first. Buy try to get your husband on the same page or it will cause issues later.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings
TBH, why is this woman allowed around the children unattended? If she’s as bad as it sounds that isnt fair to the them.
The only woman who I can equate this to would be my stepmother, and I had to cut that woman out of my life; she will never be around my children. Some people have a sickness in their heads and hearts and we need to protect those that cant protect themselves.