MIL Rant

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
292 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014


I’m sorry you have stressful in-laws.

I have a huge dose of my own (as you’ll see in my prev posts about them), and I know how much effort it takes both emotionally and physically to remain sane.

However, I would suggest talking to your FI before facing your MIL yourself.

Your FI should hear you out and set up boundaries with his mother, not you.  If you face your MIL and try to set up that boundary with her without FI agreeing with you, then all you’ll get is MIL running to her son in tears and your FI being defensive for his mother against you.

You and your FI need to be on the same ground of understanding and agreement, and your FI should be the one to take the initiative of setting up the boundary with his mother, since he is her son – it’ll be an easier transition.


I emphasize the whole “same ground” deal, because in worse cases, MIL will not bend even with her son’s words/pleas/etc – which is what happened to me and my FI.  In such cases, FI should stand on his ground with the boundaries you and he agreed upon – which is what my FI did – and this cannot be accomplished without the mutual understanding and agreement between you and your FI.


Good luck.

I know how hard this can be.

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