- 3 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
Since I found the hive I feel like I can vent and not having an upset FI. Thank you all.
Onto my future mother in law. She drives me NUTS. Absolutely nuts. And now since we just bought a house it’s been nothing but worse.
To start off, FI is 26 and still lives at home. We settle on our house December 3rd (yay!!) and will hopefully had it all ready to move into by January, it needs some updates. So until then he still lives with his parents. She opens his mail, reads his bank statements, bills, everything. Drives me crazy. They both work for the same company so she knows exactly how much leave (works for county government) he has, what he gets paid, etc. She cannot look up a person’s personal info without reason but she does it to him for no reason. One of those people that knows everything about everything but 9 times out of 10 it’s wrong. Ugh.
Fast forward to the second we got engaged. I couldn’t even enjoy my moment without her coming up to me and saying “you need to tell your parents to put your ring on their insurance. Mr Lizzy paid a lot for that” Um, okay? Thanks for ruining my moment. I ignored her and she mentioned it AGAIN now that we are buying a house and getting our own insurance. We honestly cannot afford anymore. Between me being between school and work one pay check just isn’t a lot. Drives me crazy.
The other night we were talking and she asked if Bill and Sue (MIL’s half brother and wife) were invited. I have never heard of them and FI has never met them. I told her they were not and she starts crying because they weren’t invited. She kept saying “they won’t come, just invite them” I can’t rely on “they won’t come” because what if they do come? I’m already at my limit. His parents are not contributing so I don’t see where she thinks it’s her place to decide who is invited and who isn’t. Bees, I’m at my limit. I can’t say anything to her because she will go to FIL and say I’m awful and rude then who will go to Mr. Lizzy and make me apologize. I can’t even be in the same room as her. I’m tired of the manipulation and guilt trips. No one stands up to her but I’m gonna. I don’t care if she hates me, I’ve had it. FI tells me to ignore it and roll it off my shoulders but I just can’t do it anymore.
I feel much better now. Thank you if you made it this far 🙂